This is what happens when special becomes unworthy, and when perfect becomes unusual.
Oh! or when normal becomes upside down.
Just like a new hole in a sieve. Now, what’s the need?
There are many lights in relationships that could be unwavering.
Some of them could look like tiny lights shining in the dark, which can be ignored, while others will shine so bright that you just have to attend to them.
Either way, love can become very unwanted when you are consistently experiencing questioning signs of an upside-down relationship.
That’s why you now need to know what it is, and if you are in one already without even knowing it.
What Is an Upside-Down Relationship?
The best answer is to use your friends as an example.
You know those close couple friends you have?… Yes, that exact one.
They have both been in love for so long but haven’t gotten the ability to cross from the dating stage to the marriage stage of their love journey.
That’s an upside down relationship.
Don’t bite me yet!!
It’s an upside-down relationship because every time they decide to make more commitments, they then start to discover something new, and they keep questioning themselves if it is the right option or if that is the right person.
An upside down relationship occurs between two individuals who are madly in love but can not carry on with the relationship for one or two non-switchable lights.
In the worst-case scenario, you might have gotten married to the person before you assume the courage to call the relationship an upside down relationship.
We all know love is not the only ingredient that makes the love portions. You don’t have to be a playboy or an expert to know it.
All it takes is still having your consciousness while you are at your love-hard stage.
But even during this time, many people fail to note the required lights that turn them off with a regular individual and just assume “Hey! It’s my girlfriend. I think I can live with that”.
..not until the ‘love’ turns into ‘evol.’
That is why there are two shades of thought every individual who finally falls for an upside down relationship always experiences.
Awareness — Even with succumbing trials
That is the scariest part of being in an upside down relationship. The fact that you know you are in one.
It’s mind-disturbing, right?
You know that these signs portrayed by your partner are not the best sign you can live it.
It’s not one you can ignore as you go on your love spree.
In worse situations, you may have tried to sustain the relationship and help them change.
Indeed, you can’t change everything about your lover, but not some specific things.
Now you have tried to change them, but they won’t change. But then…
You can’t find yourself to leave — Blinded by love
Yes!… You are blinded by love.
Even if you are aware that it is a relationship that will only mature into a floating empty boat.
You still can’t find yourself leaving the ship.
That is the second thought every individual face in an upside down relationship.
So can we say, most folks in an upside down relationship are those individuals who show no effort to change their attitude?
Well yes and no, because it could be confusing.
But not as confusing as these two types of love scenarios that are usually confused with an upside down relationship.
Falling out of love
It’s always bad when you find yourself falling out of love with someone you truly loved before.
It’s really bad, but that is nothing like being in an upside down relationship.
In an upside down relationship, you would sit perfectly in love with your partner.
It’s always even more intense than a regular relationship as you would both be head-on on sticking with each other.
One-sided relationship
One-sided relationships are also well confused with upside down relationships.
Because only one person is really in the relationship, while the other person is next to being unbothered or worse, they never even cared about the other person.
But no!
That is not the case with an upside down relationship. In that type of relationship, both parties are so in love.
It’s a perfect fit.
They just can’t find themselves to remove specific thorns in their flesh.
Here are five basic signs of an upside down relationship;
1. When his mother controls him
Don’t mind the predominance of “him.” But have you ever dated someone who is constantly controlled by their mother?
Not a wimpy now, but before he takes a step or two, he always get accreditation from his mum.
We all do, but not at the pace of this specific adult.
If you are in love with such a person, and you know it’s bad, but can’t find yourself to leave or change him, then you are way under angle 90.
You are upside down.
2. When her brother comforts her
Now it’s a “her.”
Yes, her brother comforts her, just as your sister does comfort you too.
But when it’s in a type of way that’s extremely impossible for you to do, then it might be a light you may not be able to turn off anytime soon.
If she gets annoyed, and you always have to call her brother or other folks to help pet her for you or calm her down.
You are in an upside down relationship.
3. When they are attention-demanding(narcissists)
It is one of the worst and most secretive signs of an upside down relationship.
Dating a narcissist.
The relationship could be so well afloat that it stays for many years, even into marriage.
Until a few years down, and your middle-aged self realizes that your partner has been attention-grabbing for the whole of your 35 years of marriage.
Now, your relationship might have no option but to go southwest.
Truly, there isn’t love without attention and care, but not like attention-seeking individuals, who are just too personal.
Dating them will most definitely be an upside down relationship.
4. When they never smile with your family
This sign could easily pass off as “they are not yet acquainted.”
It’s one of the most deadly signs of an upside down relationship.
Whoever you are dating should be on good terms with your folks.
If you are dating someone who doesn’t want to meet or see your family, don’t hesitate to solve that issue, because it’s a bad one.
It might appear to you as a minor thing, but now that is the essence of an upside down relationship.
5. When they never share a plan with you
If your partner shares little to no plans with you, then you are in one already.
Don’t even waste another second fiddling about that light.
It’s a bad one. Take it down.
Effective immediately.
Although it can be in two ways, one is them not sharing their plans with you, and the other is not having any co-thoughtful plans with you.
The takeaway from the essence of upside down relationships
You can’t have a perfect relationship.
No matter how hard you try.
Even Romeo and Juliet never had the perfect ride, nor do the Prince and his gentle Princess Markle.
But there is one thing you can do to ensure you have a perfectly imperfect relationship.
That is to ensure you turn off all the irritating lights in the attitudes, behavior, and character of your partner before it is too late.
Especially the ones you can not live with.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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