Choose To Be Alone

They say misery loves company, but it seems today more people prefer solitude when they are miserable. I am those people.

You are always encouraged to surround yourself with family and friends.

It is a vital thing, but sometimes you need to be by yourself. Your loved ones may not understand this, but you should enjoy it. Being alone allows you to think quietly about what you deem crucial in your life, enjoy your company and discover what you want for yourself. Being alone is not always an indicator of loneliness or depression. Most times is not your cup of tea. However, at one point in your life, it is essential to be alone.

Various stages or circumstances in your life necessitate aloneness.

These may be different for every one of us. Some people prefer it when they are sad; others when angry, while some when ecstatic. Seclusion from others lets you analyze the situation clearly from your perspective and also permits you to revel in it, appreciate it, and in some cases, find solutions for it in line with your thinking.

Sometimes for no particular reason, you may want to be alone. For other people, isolation is part of their personality; it is who they are and how they function. It is frowned upon by those who do not understand or value it and should not be the case. At times you may not even comprehend the reasons behind your choice to be alone, but it is your desire all the same.

For me, I desire this isolation when I’m pregnant.

I can’t explain why but at that time, I want to be by myself. However, not throughout the whole period, but most of the time, I secluded myself from my friends and family. It felt relaxing, revitalizing, and peaceful to be by myself when I wanted to be, and it was great that I had the opportunity to be. Those chances did not always present themselves when I needed them. Whenever they came, I took them gleefully.

Looking back now, I think it would have been better to let my loved ones know that I preferred being left alone instead of dodging their calls and failing to answer their texts and messages. Notifying them makes the whole process easier for you and them, sometimes anyway. It may not always be something that you’d want to do, the case for most people. You hope they’ll take a hint or altogether not contact you.

In the end, all of us share this feeling during some moments in our life.

Therefore, we should accommodate those who desire solitude, be respectful of their decisions and understand that it’s not always about us. We also need it and would want those close to us to do the same for us. It is not shameful, something to feel sorry or self-pity for, but rather a need we have for rest, self-growth, personal development, and healing.

So take that time for yourself to be by yourself, to enjoy your company.

It may just be what you desperately need.

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Previously Published on medium

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