So many men never get one opportunity for real brotherhood in their lives, and we’re all searching for it either actively or passively.
After leading hundreds of workshops for men of all ages, one of the things I’ve realized is how incredible my experience was as a member of a fraternity – and not just your average drinking fraternity, but one with actual values and systems for me to improve my life among other good men.
So many men never get a single opportunity for real brotherhood in their lives. And yet we’re all searching for it either actively or passively.
I also realized how much I missed that fraternity feeling after college, when the alumni involvement just didn’t do it for me. I talk with a few of my brothers from college, and everybody’s feeling kinda the same things. It’s tough to stay connected to old brothers from college. It’s even tougher to gain new brothers after college.
So I started my own fraternity for adult men, and guys started showing up every week. Slowly, over time, we built ground rules for interacting positively with the group. Then a program evolved that to this day consistently helps men in areas of need.
In all of that work, it felt like play. We laugh a lot, we help each other out a lot, and it’s become a real brotherhood.
That’s when it struck me that maybe this was an idea worth spreading. Maybe you guys, my brothers (and sisters), also feel like fraternity is missing from your life.
Where do you find your fraternity?
Also by Dale Thomas Vaughn
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Photo by Kai Hochhausen