You know the files in your laptop that seem to collect data? The ones you finally decide to clean out and purge? Yesterday, I explored my files on my Mac Air and realized I had a couple powerpoints left from the year 2020 not completed. The topics were dynamic! I cannot believe I let them sit there for two years. So, over the weekend, I completed them and began presenting the topics to my clients.
The first topic was Self-Care versus Selfish Care. Powerful topic encourages partners to seek ways to improve their health both physical and mental without using any abusive behaviors to control their relationships.
The idea about teaching people to maintain their vitamins, drink water, and exercise without making a partner feel guilty, or demand a partner to participate or fill their vitamins seems like a no-brainer. However, you’d be surprised at the inability for some people to take their health into their own hands.
The last time I taught self-care was right after my AFIB in 2020, (Literally the next evening). I had used the powerpoint and then promptly forgot about it. Even though self-care has been paramount in my life since that event, I cannot believe I let two six month terms go through my program and not have this topic!
Another topic, was The Why Behind Abusive or Violent Behaviors. This topic helps explain why a person might do, say or behave in certain ways. However, one of the earmarks in the topic is to recognize the powerful thought: An explanation of behavior does not excuse bad behavior.
Once someone understands why they do what they do, they have awareness to begin implementing change behavior and change language in their relationships. Until someone knows what they are doing is not healthy, they lack the knowledge to change. While the choice to change still lays with the person who wakes up, it doesn’t mean they will choose to do so.
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What do you do with the information?
Two powerful topics sitting there, waiting to encourage people to choose a healthier mindset slipped right into the running to be some of the most dynamic and needed concepts.
I often forget the details and plans from the past as I keep moving forward. How often do you do that? Probably more than you want to admit. It’s refreshing to awaken to the little gems hidden in stacks of documents.
To find a note from a caring friend in a stack of bills, or to get a phone call from someone you’d not heard from in years because they found the letter you wrote them in an old drawer.
The things we put aside sometimes come out at the right moment for the right people to see. I like to keep a fresh mindset and my writer’s block came to a halt when I stumbled upon old powerpoints, who needed to share their insight.
“It is not until you rhyme with a person that makes you their perfect match, it is when you are satisfied with each others peculiarities, and find jewels in their loopholes.”― Michael Bassey Johnson
What have you found in your old files, which reminded you of the value of your time and energy?
Those ideas and words matter now, maybe more than they did yesterday (or last year). A simple writing prompt would be to look back in time, see what you wrote and never completed.
Finish it, share it, and learn from your ideas.
This post was previously published on Change Your Mind Change Your Life.
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