Let’s talk about something most people don’t talk about unless they’re doubled over, googling symptoms, or trapped in a bathroom wondering what just hit them: poop.
Yes. We’re going there.
And not just poop — urine, sweat, snot, shaking, crying, yawning, screaming. Because here’s the truth: your body is constantly trying to release what your mind and spirit have been forced to hold onto for far too long.
We’re only just beginning to understand how deeply the soul and science are entwined. How generational trauma isn’t just an emotional inheritance but a biological and energetic one, too.
This is where it gets gritty, sacred, and yes — bodily.
Let’s start with sh*t, shall we?
When you’ve been carrying trauma, especially the kind that’s layered from childhood, from family lines, from unspoken ancestral grief, your body often becomes a holding tank.
And when that trauma finally starts to move?
It can look like crying.
But it can also look like sweating through your sheets at 3 a.m.
Or peeing ten times in a day.
Or having wild diarrhea for a week straight.
When my second-oldest son, Levi, suffered a traumatic brain injury, our whole family was thrown into crisis. I was sitting in the Neuroscience ICU, watching machines blink, while my son’s life hung in the balance. During that week, I barely ate. I held it together for my other boys. And then — days later, after Levi was stabilized — I started to shake. Not a little tremble. Full-body convulsions. Then came the headaches. The gut pain. The sweats. And yes, the bathroom marathons. That was my body finally releasing what it had locked down to survive.
We now know the gut is more than just where digestion happens. It’s often called the “second brain” because of the enteric nervous system, a web of neurons in the gut that communicates constantly with the brain. When you’re stressed, anxious, triggered, or holding unprocessed trauma, the gut knows. And when it’s time to release it? That release will often come through the bowels.
This is not dysfunction. It’s divine intelligence.
Your intestines are doing more than turning food into energy. They’re sorting emotional residue.
They’re processing grief.
They’re trying to get the ancestral gunk out.
Trauma leaves clues.
But sometimes, it also leaves through poop.
A lot of people say, “I feel blocked.”
But you’re not blocked.
You’re likely backed up emotionally.
And when the emotional dam breaks, don’t be surprised if the toilet sees more of you than your friends do.
Mark Wolynn writes in It Didn’t Start With You that trauma lives in the subconscious like an invisible contract. What’s left unresolved doesn’t vanish — it echoes. It shows up in your nervous system. In your relationships. In your immune system. In your digestion.
He explains how people can inherit fears, beliefs, and bodily symptoms from events they never personally experienced. That’s epigenetics: the study of how behavior and environment can change the way our genes express themselves. Trauma alters our biology and can do so across generations.
And here’s what’s wild, sometimes, healing doesn’t look like a spiritual breakthrough. It looks like a stomachache. Or a pee you can’t stop taking. Or mucus pouring out of your nose like your soul is crying. These aren’t just symptoms, they’re signs of your body saying, “We’re finally letting this go.”
When people say they want to heal trauma, they often think it’s a mental exercise — like talking it out, affirming over it, or just moving on. But trauma isn’t stored in your mind. It’s stored in your flesh. In your fascia. In your gut. In your pelvis. In your throat.
This is why sometimes, when people start doing inner work (like my clients do in activation calls or SBL Integration Sessions) they suddenly start having strange body sensations.
They pee more.
They sweat more.
They feel sore or wired or sleepy or just… off.
That’s not regression.
That’s release.
One client recently told me, “I started bawling and yawning so hard I thought something was wrong. Then I realized, I wasn’t sad. I was just finally feeling safe enough to let go.”
In the Sefer Yetzirah, one of the foundational works of Kabbalah, there is the teaching that God formed the body through the Hebrew letters and imbued it with elemental forces — wind, water, and fire — signifying breath, flow, and transformation. The body is not separate from spirit; it is the spirit’s vehicle for purification.
Traditional Chinese Medicine has long taught that the lungs store grief and that the large intestine governs the letting go of not just physical waste, but emotional baggage. When we cry, exhale deeply, or experience spontaneous bowel movements in times of stress. Those are signs of the body aligning with the soul’s healing rhythm.
Books like The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté have become must-reads for a reason: they connect the ancient and the clinical. They show what our ancestors knew, healing is full-body work.
Here’s the part that often gets overlooked. Healing doesn’t just happen in cathartic ceremonies or big, dramatic breakdowns. It happens in micro-shifts. In moments of awareness. In choosing to breathe instead of scroll. In pausing before saying yes out of old programming. In noticing the tight belly and saying, “Hey, what are we holding here?”
We’ve been taught to either ignore the body or control it. But rarely have we been taught to listen to it.
Your pee matters.
Your poop matters.
Your body’s signals aren’t inconvenient. They’re sacred.
You might be peeing out panic your grandmother held in silence.
You might be crying out the shame your mother swallowed.
You might be pooping out the survival stress your great-grandfather passed down after war.
This is the truth: you are not just healing you.
You’re healing your bloodline.
And if it feels like too much some days, if you wonder why it’s all hitting now, why your body feels exhausted, or why you just can’t seem to get through your to-do list;
let me tell you: that’s not failure.
That’s sacred work unfolding.
𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐒𝐢𝐭 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐌𝐞
This is exactly why I offer activation calls, so you have a place to be seen in the middle of it. No fixing. No formulas. Just space. A flashlight in the fog.
And if you’re feeling called to go deeper, we’re gathering in Dallas on June 21st for the Ancestral Trauma Workshop. We’ll be talking about all of this. How trauma moves through the body, how to safely release it, and how to work with your body, not against it. There will be tears, there will be laughter, and there will probably be a whole lot of bathroom breaks. (Yes, seriously.)
Because healing is holy. And sometimes, it’s messy. And sometimes, it looks like sweat and pee and snot and trembling. And sometimes, it looks like your body finally saying, “Thank you for listening. Now let’s let this sh*t go.”
If you’re in the thick of it right now, I see you.
If your body is loud, weird, or wild right now — I honor it.
And if you’re holding space for others while trying to process your own healing, I bow to your strength.
You’re not falling apart. You’re falling into place.
Now drink some water.
Take a breath.
And go if you need to go.
That might just be sacred release knocking on the bathroom door.
Want to dive deeper?
Join me for an activation call or come be part of our Dallas Ancestral Trauma Workshop on June 21st. You don’t have to carry it alone.
DM me or Comment below what you are most interested in. I will message you.
As always loving you from here,
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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