How Do People Gaslight Their Partners to Get Control?

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt like you were constantly being made to feel crazy? If so, you are not alone. How to make your partner question their reality?

Let’s learn how people use gaslighting to manipulate their partners. They use these tactics in this game of getting control.

Make Accusations

The first step in gaslighting someone is to start making accusations. This can be anything from saying that your partner is always doing things wrong to accusing them of being crazy or manipulative.

The goal is to make your partner doubt their sanity and make them feel like they can’t trust their thoughts.

Claim to Know What they Are Feeling

When trying to gaslight someone, the perpetrator will often start by claiming to know what the victim is feeling. This can take many forms, but typically it will involve the perpetrator claiming to understand what the victim is going through better than they do.

This tactic is often used to make the victim feel like they are crazy or wrong for feeling the way they do. It can also be used to control or manipulate the victim.

Deny the Evidence of Your Eyes and Ears

One of the most common ways to gaslight someone is to deny that you have seen or heard what they are saying. This can be done in a number of ways, but one common way is to say that you were not paying attention or that what you saw or heard did not happen.

Another way to deny evidence is to say that what you saw or heard cannot be true because it does not fit your beliefs.

Play Dumb with your partner

In this step, you will want to play dumb with your partner to make them think you are unaware of what is happening. This will help to gaslight them and make them believe that they are the only one who is confused or wrong.

To do this, you will need to act like you do not understand what they are saying, or worse yet like you do not believe them. Your partner will start to doubt themselves and their memory by doing this.

Make Jokes at Your Partner

One common tactic used to gaslight someone is to make jokes at their expense. This can be done subtly by making fun of your partner’s thoughts or feelings without them knowing it, or overtly, by ridiculing them in front of others.

Jokes at your partner’s expense can be debilitating affect their confidence and ability to trust themselves. It can also create a sense of isolation and helplessness, making it easier for the gaslighter to control them.

Use Emotional Manipulation to Get What You Want (or Need)

An emotional manipulation is a powerful tool that can be used to get what you want or need.

It can make the person feel bad like they are crazy or wrong. This makes them less likely to stand up for themselves and more likely to do what you want.

Threaten With Divorce or abandonment

If you have successfully gaslighted your victim into believing that they are crazy or delusional, you may want to threaten them with divorce or abandonment to keep them in line.

This can be a particularly effective tactic if your victim is prone to anxiety or depression, as it can create feelings of insecurity and fear. Make sure that your threats are believable and that you have backup plans if your victim decides to leave you.

Blame the Victim

This behavior in the gaslighting process is to blame the victim. This is done by making the victim feel as if they are responsible for what has happened, that they are crazy or wrong, and are making things up.

It is important to keep in mind that gaslighting attempts to control and manipulate the victim, so it is important not to fall into this trap.

If you are in a relationship in which you feel like you are constantly being made to feel crazy, there is a good chance that your partner is gaslighting you.

The Gaslighter uses these tactics to manipulate and threaten you.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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