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Tired of being trapped in limbo when someone doesn’t know what they really want? It’s easy for people to not want to commit while STILL craving the comfort of keeping you around. If you’re stuck in this trap, listen to this NOW . . .
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when is the right time to walk away if
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he doesn’t want to commit i was seeing a
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guy that i really like for a year and
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four months the problem is that he
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doesn’t want to let me go and still
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doesn’t want to commit either i don’t
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know what to do with this situation
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rent
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time
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no one
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can hold you
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anywhere he didn’t put you in a cage
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and say i just can’t let you go i’m
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sorry the victim is me i just can’t let
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you go while i lock you in this cage
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over here i’m the one who’s suffering i
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just i can’t commit i just can’t let you
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go i’m the victim here
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stop allowing that to blind you to
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what’s actually going on the story here
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is not that you have someone who’s so
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into you the story here is you have
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someone who can’t make a decision to
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commit to you
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when someone says i just can’t let you
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go
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that’s all about them
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that’s all about them at its extreme
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form that’s narcissism it’s i am
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prepared to ruin your life because it’s
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more comfortable for me to do so i just
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can’t let you go
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that’s not about you
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has nothing to do with you it has not
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it’s not a generous act it’s not about
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your well-being it’s not about your
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happiness that’s about him
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it’s about his emotions his comfort him
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being able to have whatever he wants
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when he wants it i just can’t let you go
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but i don’t want you either but i just
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can’t let you go i am gonna be
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goldilocks i just not too hot not too
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cold i just need it just right i just
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need it like it’s my favorite not
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committing to you but not having you
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leave either i just need my favorite my
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favorite is you just giving me your time
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and your energy and your attention and
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your love and your intimacy even though
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i don’t commit that’s my favorite
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that’s my favorite my favorite is not
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committing to you not going all in but
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just not letting you go either that’s my
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favorite i just can’t not have my
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favorite
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this is the essence the seeds i’m not
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calling someone who does that a
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narcissist i think that label was thrown
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around at a wild level that is way way
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way too much we’re too quick to diagnose
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people but in there are the seeds of
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narcissism
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and you have to hear that for what it is
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i don’t want you but i can’t let you go
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in other words i don’t give a [ __ ] about
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what’s right for you or what’s going to
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make you happy or what’s going to be
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good for your time what i care about is
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me
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we cannot have this
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this cannot be this is not a recipe for
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living a good life is to live like this
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you have to have boundaries you have to
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stick to them someone says you know they
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don’t want to let you go
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here’s your response
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oh
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you seem to have something mistaken you
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seem to think that you’re the one who’s
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controlling this situation
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when you tell me after how long a year
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and four months
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by the way after three months someone
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should have a good idea of what they
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want with you i’m not saying after three
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months they have to decide they want to
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marry you but after three months if
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someone can’t say enough to say you know
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what i really want to give this a shot
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with you let’s see where it goes we
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don’t have to decide our entire future
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right now but i can at least decide not
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to screw other people let’s do that
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if after three months you don’t have
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that that’s a red flag after a year and
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four months
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someone’s saying i can’t commit to you
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but i can’t let you go you are mistaken
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sir you seem to think that it’s your
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choice as to whether you let me go
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it’s not
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your choice is not to commit to me
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my decision
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is that that’s not interesting to me and
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i’m gonna go and find something that has
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actual potential because the guy that
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doesn’t want me but can’t let me go
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is boring as [ __ ]
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hey it’s me matthew the person you are
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