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Question: I am ready to get out there and start dating again; however, I am currently living with my ex. We thought it would be better /cheaper to be roommates but how do we do this without it being awkward? I don’t want to hurt him but I want to move on with my life!
Answer: Just like the weather, everything has its seasons. When the idea initially rose, you wanted to honor each other while dissolving one phase and transitioning into another. Now, it sounds like it is time to transition yet again. The season of living with your ex has come to an end and now it is time to move on with gratitude, love, openness, and vulnerability.
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but I am currently living with my
ex-boyfriend we thought it would just be
better and cheaper to be roommates but
now how do I do this I don’t want to
hurt him but I don’t want to feel
trapped either well I can imagine that
you feel terribly trapped everything has
a season right relationships have a
season breaking up has a season so
basically in the beginning it was a it
was a tender precious financially
responsible perhaps way to move into the
next phase you’re done and now it’s time
to move out one it’s time to move out so
that you don’t feel trapped – it would
be inappropriate and I think hurt his
feelings if you start traipsing other
guys around – you’re not free to be you
and and flourish and and be open to new
love for what does it gonna feel like if
he starts bringing girls around – even
though you’re complete there still
doesn’t feel so great right so so it
sounds like there’s a little bit of
black and white thinking going on like
either I have to pay for a place myself
which will be hard on me financially or
I stay with my ex-boyfriend which isn’t
working either what if there were other
possibilities like tons of other
possibilities what if there were other
people you could room with women or
girlfriends right so and there was an
agreement in place of how and when you
bring gentlemen over what if there was a
really amazing inexpensive situation
where you could have your own place what
if this is an opportunity for you to
value yourself more and get a better
paying job or get something on the side
and really prove to yourself that indeed
you are a queen there are so many
house-sitting opportunities like I could
go on and on and on about what else is
possible so that you could honor
yourself honor your ex-boyfriend and
make the space for you to attract your
next partner and really have the
foundation the space the home so that
that relationship could flourish
yeah that’s your question to ask how
else can I support you I think that’s
just basically the conversation to have
with him and and just say I care for you
and this is
now not working for me anymore and I
want to do what’s best for me and what’s
best for you and so and so I’m going to
be moving out at the end of the month
and and if you want to support him and
finding someone else to move in then so
be it or if you need to ask him to move
out if you’d like to stay if he’s
actually the one that’s going to move on
support him in doing so be kind be
honest be straight if I can be of
service to have a one-off session and
help the two of you through that
potentially difficult conversation my
pleasure if you go to Alana Pratt comm
under work with Alana you can always
purchase a one-off session and if
speaking up for what you want having
healthy boundaries creating the
foundation of thriving for your life
romantically and professionally is kind
of a hiccup for you kind of a pattern
and you actually think this is a good
time to do some deep inner work not only
for your relationship potential future
but for the rest of your life a real
investment in yourself then maybe you
might want to apply for a strategy
session with me to see if doing six
sessions together is a fit for me to
invite you to work with me if that is
the case you go to Alana prep comm
forward slash connect and we will see if
you’re indeed a fit for that because it
would so be my pleasure for you to truly
embody the queen that you are and
receive it all the guy the great job the
money the freedom the self-expression
the pleasure
you’re allowed I give you permission
okay
Oh
all my love to you always if you and
your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend broke
up and you want them back put the cell
phone down right now and go to digital
romance dot T v /t X B at that link
you’ll find a special video Michael
Fiore put together that teaches you the
exact text to send your ex to make him
or her forgive you for everything
remember how great your relationship
used to be and even beg to have you back
again that URL is digital romance TV /t
X B
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