Long answer: There are a billion kinds of love. You know this already, of course. You love your siblings one way, your best friend another, Christina Hendricks another… But even romantic love has something “true” to offer every time you fall into it.
And what’s “true” the first time you fall in love may seem very fleeting later on. Or maybe it will seem very profound as you look back. But every love you find will teach you something new.
Of course, there’s the possibility that your first love will be your only love. I have a number of friends for whom this is the case. They have happy marriages and happy families. Others (including myself) are so glad to have had a number of different types of love, and all of them seem very true. Even the ones that ended badly were lovely and important.
He Said: My mama always told me, you have different friends for different reasons. I think you can also have different loves for different seasons (or stages in your life). So… no, first love and true love are not mutually exclusive. Your first love could be a true love. It could be long-lasting, all-encompassing, satisfying, and your last love.
However, I believe you’re not limited to just one true love in your lifetime. Your expectations, needs, and desires (regarding love) may change/grow as you do, throughout your life. We’re ever-evolving creatures. I had no interest in avocados when I was younger, but I sure do love them now.
Seriously, who and how you love is likely to change during your lifetime (though it’s not a requirement for everyone). Be flexible with love, and it will be flexible with you. I’ve found flexibility to be a very underrated aspect for ANY type of love.
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