When the adversarial nature of the Family Court apparatus is in full gear — framing the “Mom vs Dad” case — trauma from parental alienation often plays out with some of the worst type of damage obstructing family bonds.
The psychological manipulation targets the most innocent individual — the one falling in between the “v” and “s” of Mom “vs” Dad — the child. In this way a child can show signs of disrespect, fear and irrational anger towards the targeted parent or family member. This results in the relationship and bond deteriorating over time and often to a point where a parent and many family members lose the ability to communicate, visit and be a part of that child’s life — in other words they become erased.
A Reality For Judge
Tamra Judge, of the Real Housewives of Orange County reality TV program, is featured in a newly released Public Service Announcement that debuted at a recent fundraising gala for the upcoming documentary film Erasing Family — whereby she added her voice to the many people worldwide whom identify as being erased.
At the dinner, Judge commented about how speaking out on the issue led her to discover many other erased mothers, fathers, and children — realizing how vast the problem is in these ordeals.
Speaking with family members at her side, Judge said,
“I am determined to help other families who are going through this, it is important to know that you are not alone. Children are taught to hate, love your children more than you hate your ex. Children deserve to have both parents in their life.”
Erasing Family Documentary
Ginger Gentile, a documentary filmmaker, is shining a light onto the obstructing forces that play a role in harming the bond that exists between children — their fathers — mothers — siblings and extended families.
“I don’t want any child to suffer from their parent’s divorce as I did.” —DIRECTOR GINGER GENTILE
The upcoming film Erasing Family, the follow-up to the documentary Erasing Dad that Gentile directed, will focus on the devastating impact inflicted when parental alienation pulls apart families. It will feature several interviews and share the alienation as experienced through the most innocent victims — the children.
Hoping to promote reform in family court, Gentile would like to bring national attention to what is becoming an increasing public health epidemic saying, “the documentary aims at promoting increased awareness of this traumatic issue of court-ordered family separations. Studies show that prolonged child trauma often causes negative health outcomes.”
Once the film is released, Gentile believes it will garner an initial wave of heightened focus on family courts and the inability — sometimes outright refusal — by them to improve adverse outcomes for families that often stem from legal separations.
“Just because the child says she doesn’t want to see them, or the other parent makes an accusation, the courts quickly erase a parent, thus robbing them of their identities. Resources should be spent on healing — not prolonging — family conflict.” —DIRECTOR GINGER GENTILE
Awareness and Education
“At this event, the movie’s director showed rough cuts of some of their filming to date, stories told by targeted parents and by their now reunited children. Most powerful were the statements by the now-reunited children. Strong stuff. Good stuff. This is exactly the professional grade documentary that needs to get made. They need funding. They need our support.”
As awareness of parental alienation continues to attract more attention worldwide — many efforts have taken root to educate the public and professionals who deal directly with this dilemma. Dr. Childress will be featured as one of several experts to speak at an upcoming symposium where Wendy Perry, Co-Founder of Parental Alienation Awareness Organization USA, has led efforts in coordinating this event.
It is geared towards providing strategies and solutions for the many professionals working in the legal, education, health and other industries that directly interact with families effected. In this way, the symposium aims to bring together and promote synergies between educators, behavioral health providers, protective services, social services, law enforcement, juvenile justice professionals and parents.
The Parental Alienation Symposium 2017: Solutions for Professionals and Families takes place on April 29, 2017 in Dallas, Texas.
Wendy and her husband Robert Perry, are currently working on a documentary film where one of the subjects of focus is the story of Rod McCall who lost his son under the most tragic of circumstances and shares his experience in the book he authored, For The Love Of Eryk.
Light And Reunification
Erased family members often wrestle with the trauma and emotional seesaw that fluctuates between depression — anger — periods of despair — feeling like they are caught in a never-ending cycle and finding it hard to see light at the end of the tunnel.
The increased efforts put forth by active individuals and groups seeking reforms and reunifying erased victims with their families — bringing these issues out in the open by providing awareness, education and support — offer optimism and hope that light will finally come for the many people feeling the impact of parental alienation in these divorce and custody ordeals — feeling lost in a broken system.
This post was originally published on the author’s Huffington Post blog as is republished here with his permission.
Photo credit: screenshot from ErasingFamily.org’s video