On the spiritual path, we often hear the phrase, “Let go of what no longer serves you.” Intellectually, this makes sense. Why would we hold on to jobs, relationships or toxic family members if it was not serving us?
In reality, letting go is incredibly challenging and it often represents the difference between what the heart wants and our deeper subconscious desires that we rarely take the time to look at. True consciousness, however, means that we bring the light to our desires and passions and use the energy to fuel our highest good. It often means surrendering to love.
We are in a pivotal moment in time. On December 21st, the Great Conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn occurs bringing us into a new chapter. It was 800 years ago when this happened last. We are potentially looking at a beautiful transition in consciousness but for this to be a more permanent transition, we all need to take the time to clear out any negative energies that are not in alignment with our higher self.
The hardest times to choose love become the very times that you can most grow spiritually.
— Gary Zukav
As a relationship expert, I work with a lot of clients who seem stuck or unable to move forward in their dating lives. Often the culprit is an emotionally avoidant person who is not ready to meet us at a higher level of emotional intelligence. The reason why we get stuck is simply a matter of karma — people show up in our lives for a reason and we have opportunities and debts to clear in this lifetime so that we can move forward.
Emotionally avoidant people give us the opportunity to reflect on our emotional strengths and decide whether we need to step up and lead or let a connection go. As I often tell my clients, you can love someone but that’s not enough to hold on to a situation that may not be in your best interest. In fact, by not letting go, we may be interfering with an important lesson the other person has to learn. Or they may need to more consciously choose a healing journey. Emotional intelligence and psychological development occur not in our accommodation of other people’s needs but in an unwavering patience that leaves room to set someone free for them to explore and grow.
Whatever it is that you need to let go, do so with love. Spend time thinking about what you want to manifest for this new chapter. Let the judgments go. Let the fear go. Simply be and trust that whatever is right for you, will begin to make its way to you over the next few months.
I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.
— Oprah Winfrey
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