Some people, due to the pressures of living in a busy city, have no time or energy to maintain a relationship.
But when they are young, everyone is full of desire for love and has strong inner needs.
At this time, the symptoms of panic become more and more severe. In fact, some people are already immersed in the joy of love, but we often overlook this fact.
Because there are some people who are not truly emotionally invested in a passionate relationship or are constantly calculating the costs and benefits of their investment.
People with this mentality become anxious when they find that their investment does not match their returns.
In fact, love can give people the courage and hope to face failure and win another success from it.
But many people are afraid to approach success simply because they have experienced failure before.
Their fear of something makes them want to avoid pain more than they desire happiness.
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Love phobia has other symptoms besides those mentioned above, such as fear of falling deeply in love and being trapped, fear of rejection, fear of losing the one they love most, fear of being hurt, fear of hurting others, fear of being constrained by a heart that loves freedom, fear of not being able to return to the way things were before after falling in love, fear of loving someone more than they love us, and fear of wasting a lot of time because of love.
In fact, everyone has different fears of love.
The stages of love can be roughly divided into three categories: pre-love phobia (rejection-type love phobia), love phobia during the relationship (anxiety-type love phobia), and post-love phobia (also known as injury-type love phobia).
However, many people are unwilling to admit that they suffer from emotional illness and are unwilling to face their love phobia.
In fact, young people are in the process of self-discovery and self-understanding, and having a love phobia is not something to be ashamed of.
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Love phobia is a feeling of fear and distrust of love that arises after experiencing or witnessing certain things.
Many people want to get rid of this habit, but they are afraid of being established in a relationship and losing their past feelings of love.
This fear is actually a lack of self-confidence.
Those who lack self-confidence may have experienced setbacks or setbacks in their early childhood.
When every attempt and creation is suppressed by adults, they gradually begin to distrust themselves.
Or they have experienced family tragedies in their growth, resulting in a lack of confidence and trust in love in adulthood, and even a rejection-type love phobia.
Of course, these types of people are usually introverted, lack confidence, and are sensitive.
They don’t believe they have the ability to get what they want, so they choose to abstain in order to avoid failure.
To put it in a nutshell: “I reject others before they can reject me.”
Another type of sensitive love panic sufferer is usually very observant and sensitive.
If they see someone getting hurt because of love in real life, they will impose this situation on their own love that has not yet happened.
Sometimes they even create a melodrama in their mind, where they play the role of a miserable protagonist.
These people usually worry excessively and lack confidence in their love relationships. Therefore, they have high standards for their partner’s every move and have a clear emotional outline.
During the process of falling in love, these people usually pay attention to every detail.
Once their partner’s behavior falls outside of the “outline,” they start to panic.
We must not deliberately pursue anything in order to get love, nor refuse love because of fear. We need to learn to let things happen naturally, relax, and love will come true, and the panic will go away.
In addition, we need to be confident in ourselves, so that we have the courage to reveal our inner feelings to the other person and learn to accept others.
Only confident people can face all kinds of uncertainties in the outside world freely and constantly try and strive for the results they want.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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