Relationships Are Never Picture Perfect

A relationship comes with emotional responsibility. Relationships do not happen overnight. It takes a series of responsible actions which builds trust and reciprocity for an emotionally balanced relationship. Emotional responsibility goes hand in hand with integrity. Over time, people increase levels of trust within one another and the relationship flourishes. Being emotionally responsible occurs when your thoughts, words, and actions align.

What Gets In The Way?

There will be times within a relationship where our thoughts, words, and actions are not aligning—either with our own or our partners. External forces may throw a wrench into our emotional responsibility and emotional maturity. Work and life stressors may impact our emotional responsibility. For many of us, one of the biggest factors playing into our lack of emotional responsibility is our past. We all have wounds from past experiences. In other scenarios, we may want to experience that one highlight of our past again even if it means losing something in our present. Our sense of emotional responsibility becomes skewed and we get lost.

Is All Lost?

Bringing our past into a relationship can make things rather difficult, but it does not mean the relationship is doomed. We cannot erase what our lives were prior to our current relationship. The most important factor is the emotional responsibility we decide to take through communication. A relationship does not build strength through the easy times. A relationship becomes stronger when two people decide to work through things together. It is through the difficult times when things become stronger—but only if both parties maintain integrity within the relationship.

Accountability

We are all human and without mistakes or failures we will not learn how to grow and improve in the future. The more we accept emotional responsibility for our actions and the more accountable we are, the more likely the relationship is to be maintained. You made a choice to step into this relationship and build trust and love. That choice needs to be made every single day or it gets lost. Align your thoughts, words, and actions while communicating with your partner in order to create an emotionally responsible relationship.

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This post is republished on Medium.

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