Some thoughts about love, healing, and the things I wish someone had told me when I was seventeen.
Sex & Relationships
Why ‘I Don’t Know’ Is Often a Trauma Response in Relationships
Disconnecting from emotions is a survival mechanism to avoid feeling overwhelmed or unsafe in emotionally intimate situations.
Disconnecting from emotions is a survival mechanism to avoid feeling overwhelmed or unsafe in emotionally intimate situations.
Those ‘Signs’ From Your Ex Aren’t Signs — Here’s What they Really Mean
The hard truth about seeing your ex and still feeling something.
The hard truth about seeing your ex and still feeling something.
Love, Redefined
I Thought Love Meant Solving Problems. I Was Wrong.
I Thought Love Meant Solving Problems. I Was Wrong.
When a Relationship Ends the Way It Began
Inner transformation is what makes a truly great love story.
Inner transformation is what makes a truly great love story.
The Depth of What Remains
And like roots, they often go unnoticed until the winds grow stronger.
And like roots, they often go unnoticed until the winds grow stronger.
In the End, Two Strangers Know Everything About Each Other
They may be strangers now, but they still hold the architecture of each other’s souls.
They may be strangers now, but they still hold the architecture of each other’s souls.
The “Good Old Days” Delusion: 4 Ways Narcissists Intermittently Reinvent the Honeymoon to Keep You Trapped
The intermittent reinforcement schedule that hooks your brain like a casino slot machine.
The intermittent reinforcement schedule that hooks your brain like a casino slot machine.
Green Flags to Look for in a New Relationship
Green flags indicate both goodness and compatibility, emphasizing the importance of aligning desires and values in a partner.
Green flags indicate both goodness and compatibility, emphasizing the importance of aligning desires and values in a partner.
We’re Obsessed With Sex, but What We Really Want Is Love
Our devotion to individualism leads straight to a gaping LACK of love and sharing.
Our devotion to individualism leads straight to a gaping LACK of love and sharing.
The One Thing Women Notice About a Man That He Can Never Fake
And it almost works.
And it almost works.
Nobody Taught Us This. That’s Why Most Men are Still Performing it Instead of Living it.
There is one thing you can do in any conversation that makes her feel more seen than anything she has ever experienced. Most men will never discover it. Here it is.
There is one thing you can do in any conversation that makes her feel more seen than anything she has ever experienced. Most men will never discover it. Here it is.
Good Morning My Darling: The First Pour
Opposite actions, same aim. A small decision made hundreds of times means more than a big one made once.
Opposite actions, same aim. A small decision made hundreds of times means more than a big one made once.
Why Dismissive Avoidants Keep Their Exes Around and What t Actually Means
The solution the nervous system developed was to become less needy.
The solution the nervous system developed was to become less needy.
The Unspoken Equation
We treat love like a destination. Some mythical place we’ll finally arrive at once we’ve assembled the right ingredients — the right person, the right timing, the right level of emotional availability.
We treat love like a destination. Some mythical place we’ll finally arrive at once we’ve assembled the right ingredients — the right person, the right timing, the right level of emotional availability.
Why I’ve Never Been Married
I never managed to convince myself that sharing a bathroom forever was a good idea.
I never managed to convince myself that sharing a bathroom forever was a good idea.