You want it. You haven’t had it for a while. In fact, you’re hungry for it.
Sometimes, you even feel like you’re at the mercy of it. You want it now.
But you know you can’t demand it.
You know that demanding will just make it more likely that you won’t get it.
Besides, she’s an autonomous independent being.
What is it?
Sex. Of course.
It’s a big deal for us guys.
It’s often the most direct way that we feel love from our wife or partner.
Without sex, things just don’t feel right in the marriage or relationship.
It often feels as if… you are not right. You feel rejection.
A sense of her not being willing to receive you literally, physically, and, of course, emotionally.
Are you in a sexless marriage or relationship?
If so, I have an invitation for you.
To go deeper. To go to what you already know. A painful knowing which takes courage to confront.
The knowing that she’s shut down on you sexually.
And to be willing to learn the deeper causes of why she’s shut down on you.
And to know that it’s a manifestation of how she’s closed on a deeper level, emotionally.
You may have heard the expression, the key to her heart is…”___”
Fill in the blank. Trust, respect, love, emotion, safety….
What about the key to her body?
Well, you may have guessed it.
The key to her body is her heart.
So how did her heart shut down on you?
Watch the video below to discover the 3 R’s – resentment, reclusion, and repair – that are key to understanding the deeper root causes of a sexless marriage and what to do about it.
Her heart shut down at some point in your relationship because she felt unsafe talking to you about things.
It could’ve been an incident that happened many years ago.
It could be something you did several weeks ago that reinforced an old story she tells herself.
A story that she’s not safe with you.
These are all deeper root causes of a sexless marriage. It does not just happen overnight.
Do the deeper work to heal the sexual challenges in your relationship.
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Previously Published on stuartmotola.com
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