Part 2 of Series
What if the very thing we’ve been taught to dismiss… is the very thing shaping more of our lives than we’re willing to admit?
Yesterday I opened the door to a conversation that most people don’t spend much time in, not because it isn’t real, but because it isn’t comfortable. The idea that there is more happening beneath the surface of our day-to-day lives than what we can measure, diagnose, or logically explain. And today, I want to go deeper into that. Not from a place of fear, but from a place of awareness. Because awareness, when grounded properly, does not weaken you. It sharpens you.
We have, as a society, slowly and systematically let go of the supernatural aspect of life and faith. Not all at once. Not in some dramatic collapse. But over time, through intellect, through science, through a growing dependence on what can be proven and repeated. And while there is incredible value in logic, in science, in understanding the body and the mind, there has also been a quiet trade.
We traded mystery for certainty.
We traded reverence for explanation.
And in doing so, we didn’t eliminate the supernatural. We simply stopped acknowledging it.
If you go back through history, across cultures, across belief systems, across religions, there is a consistent thread.
Human beings have always recognized that there is more than what is seen.
The Bible speaks of what is unseen as clearly as what is seen. Kabbalah teaches that the vast majority of reality exists beyond our perception. Ancient texts, oral traditions, spiritual practices all point to the same truth. There is a realm that influences, interacts, and at times interferes with our physical experience.
And yet today, we have largely reframed that entire reality into psychological language.
What was once considered spiritual oppression is now labeled as disorder. What was once considered possession or influence is now categorized as imbalance, trauma response, or chemical disruption. Again, I am not dismissing these frameworks. They have their place. They have helped many. But they are not the whole picture.
And when we insist that they are, we close ourselves off to understanding the full landscape of what we are dealing with.
This is where the conversation becomes uncomfortable, because it challenges the lens most people have been trained to trust above all else.
Let’s talk about therapy for a moment. Therapy, in its essence, was created as a way to understand the human psyche, to bring awareness to patterns, to help individuals process trauma, to create space for healing. There is value there. Deep value. I am not anti-therapy, and I am certainly not suggesting that anyone walk away from something that is supporting them.
But like anything, when something becomes incomplete and is treated as complete, it can begin to work against us.
If you look at the roots of modern psychology, you will find names like Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung. Freud, who leaned heavily into the idea that human behavior is driven by unconscious desires, often sexual in nature, rooted in early development. Jung, who went deeper into the symbolic, into archetypes, into what he himself referred to as the collective unconscious. Jung, interestingly enough, was not afraid of the spiritual dimension. He explored it. He acknowledged that there were forces and patterns at play that extended beyond the purely rational mind.
And yet, over time, much of what has remained in mainstream therapy is a more controlled, clinical, and often purely psychological interpretation of the human experience.
We talk about trauma. We talk about triggers. We talk about coping mechanisms. We talk about patterns.
And all of that matters.
The line gets crossed when awareness does not lead to action, it becomes a loop.
When processing becomes a place we live in, instead of a place we move through, it becomes a holding pattern.
And when therapy becomes a space where we are constantly validated, constantly understood, constantly affirmed, but not challenged into transformation, it can become a very comfortable place to stay exactly where we are.
That is where the everyday demons start to find their footing.
Not in the obvious darkness. Not in the extreme cases that are easy to point out. But in the subtle agreements we make with stagnation.
“I’m this way because of my past.”
“I react this way because of my trauma.”
“This is just how I am.”
Those statements may begin as insight, but they often become identity.
And identity, when not examined, becomes a cage.
One of the lines I wrote in Everyday Demons that continues to come back to me is this: we don’t just battle darkness, we build relationships with it. We learn its language, we defend it, we justify it, and eventually we call it ours.
That is where the shift happens.
Not when something enters your life, but when you begin to agree with it.
And therapy, when not balanced with personal responsibility and spiritual awareness, can unintentionally reinforce that agreement.
It can give language to the pain, but not always a pathway out of it.
It can explain the pattern, but not always break it.
And in that space, the program, or what I would call the spirit, continues to operate.
Another piece from the book that feels important here is this: the most dangerous demons are not the ones that destroy you quickly, but the ones that sit quietly and convince you to stay the same.
Think about that.
Not chaos. Not collapse. Not crisis.
Sameness.
Comfort.
Just enough understanding to feel aware, but not enough movement to create change.
That is where many people find themselves. And it looks acceptable. It looks responsible. It looks like they are doing the work, but internally, nothing is shifting because the work is not just about understanding.
It is about transformation.
It is about choosing differently.
It is about stepping out of the patterns that feel familiar, even when they are uncomfortable to leave behind.
This is where the supernatural conversation comes back in.
Because if there are influences beyond what we see, if there are energies, patterns, spirits, whatever language you are comfortable with, that can attach to fear, to addiction, to stagnation, to identity, then simply talking about them is not enough.
There has to be a breaking of agreement.
There has to be a reclaiming of authority.
There has to be a recognition that not every thought is yours, not every pattern is yours, not every heaviness is yours to carry.
And that is not a conversation most modern frameworks are equipped to have.
We have become so focused on ownership that we have forgotten discernment.
Yes, take responsibility for your life, but also learn to recognize what is not meant to stay.
Learn to recognize what is feeding off your inaction, your fear, your comfort. Because it is not always just you.
I’m writing this today in hopes of restoring awareness, because when you become aware, you are no longer passive. You begin to see where you have been agreeing with things that are not serving you.
You begin to question what you have normalized.
You begin to feel the difference between truth and distortion.
And from that place, change becomes possible.
Not easy. But possible.
This is just the foundation. Over the next few days, I’m going to go deeper into this. I’m going to share some personal experiences, some moments that I cannot explain away with logic alone, some places where the line between the physical and the unseen became very real for me.
For now, just sit with the question.
What if there is more influencing your life than you’ve been willing to consider?
And if that’s true…
What are you going to do about it?
This is a deeper conversation than most people are used to having…
What part of this made you pause or question something?
Drop it below or ask me anything — I’ll be going deeper into this over the next few days.
And if this stirred something in you, send it to someone who’s ready to see it.
As always loving and praying for you and our world,
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