Was I Special to Him or Just Manipulated?

Falling under his charm, I always believed that he was the perfect much for me. He is two years older than me and even our zodiacs match. Believe me, this was a criterion back then.

Everyone validated our relationship. They said that we should be dating.

We had the same goals: build our empire. And run the world. Easy as that.

The first red flag, the relationship was open and with no specific rules.

Not setting boundaries was the first mistake. But we ignore it because we were deeply in love, well this is what we thought.

The click

I was not the only one in his life. As sad as this sentence sounds, as sad as this was not the worst part.

I tolerated this because I accepted the rules from the start. We are not official.

So what were we? Nothing, apparently.

We spend our free time together, surrounded by our friends. So we did not have private time to clarify the type of the relationship!

Back then, I was in a splendid position in my community. I had power and popularity. I presented him to every potential person who can help him. Glorious news? he shined and started his fashion career. That was a great day, the one when he launched his first collection.

I took part in the preparation, sending the invitations and making his dream a reality.

He went from styling dresses for his friends to styling costumes for movies and celebrities.

I was helping him to be a better person and more efficient in society because I felt that this is my duty. I did it because I kept saying that he will end up being my beloved partner, he worths the effort.

Prominent people that showed their pure interest in me were surrounding me. But I ignored them because I was committed to him.

Love is blind, they said.

I was so special to him. This is what he always says.

The day when he announced he saw someone new. The weird part is that he was so excited to tell me this! Saying that he is dating her so that she helps him to have more clients.

And then something clicked in my mind. And all made sense: I was manipulated so that he gains on the head of my privileges.

It was shocking! I went through moments of shame because I felt I was managed! The fact that I tolerated conditions I would never accept!

It was the moment of awakeness, I really needed that slap to see the truth.

I had two choices: first going through a dark side and be depressed and being sad for a moment or simply move on.

I was blessed to be aware of my situation and this helped me to go out of my dark moment of doubt if I was not enough?

How I moved out? I focused on myself. Of course, I cut any kind of contact with him or this company. I don’t go to the same places where I can see him.

I should go into this phase of denying the truth that turned out to be the best step. Not seeing him makes me know he was not that important in my life. He had a lot of charge on me that made me feel, before, that is the one.

The next step was to work out and guess what? I finally get my summer body and I started a side hustle work.
Finally, I spent the summer traveling and enjoying my time with the money I made working more and harder! What a win losing him.

Did he succeed in his life after him losing me? I don’t care and I don’t know.

His life is no longer my business and I am so grateful for what he offered me.

I now know that you should never ignore red flags and I enjoy sharing this with the surrounding ladies.

Final thoughts

So if you have any doubts about him/her. This is your sign to take your step to heal from this toxic relationship.

Know your worth and never settle for less.

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Previously Published on medium

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