The VERY moment you think you have everything together, life decides to assure you, you don’t. I have worked diligently on self-growth over the last few years in the form of various courses and introspection. I learned how effective the personal coaching model can be, so I became a coach. Prior to that I spent a portion of my life in therapy which eventually lead me to become a therapist. So, with all of this tremendous knowledge floating around my brain, I should have it all together right? I really thought the answer to that question was yes. I thought.
It turns out we are all experiencing each and everyday for the first time. While some days may be similar to previous days, it is essentially a new experience. These new daily experiences can be navigated by things we have learned previously and each time it becomes a bit easier. However, what happens when you find yourself stuck and you have been well equipped to get yourself out of the mud and can’t?
In my case, I drove all of my friends crazy asking them questions they had no answers to. As the good friends they are they provided unwavering support as I sat in my mud pit. Every so often there was some insightful advice as to how to maneuver through the pit. I continued to remain stuck in the mud. Before my friends became wary of answering my calls about my mud, I new I needed to make a move.
I decided to reach out and ask for help. Throughout my life this has not been an easy task. I have always prided myself with being tough and able to handle things on my own. The fact was, I was not handling this on my own and it was time for a pro. I resolved this was more of a preset and future place where I was stuck. Therefore, I didn’t really feel a therapist was the right course. I needed someone to propel me forward and help me get unstuck.
My emotions, which had me feeling stuck, were new to me. They were a culmination of all the places I have been in the past but were emerging differently. Vulnerability is a relatively new experience for me and is scary as hell. I firmly believe we have all of our own answers within us. Sometimes we just need to employ the help of someone that will hold up a mirror and shine the light into the spaces we are unable to see. It takes incredible strength to admit you don’t really know how to navigate some things on your own. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness rather quite the opposite.