Tom and Lucy are two awesome human beings living in two corners of the world.
Tom is living with his high school love, Emma, and, things are great between them. Tom is an understanding reliable partner who has accepted Emma as his lifelong partner (Yes!). He wishes to marry her, have a life with her. He desires to see all the thick ’n’ thin of life with his sweetheart. …. For Tom, Emma is the ONE!
Lucy is in love with her long-time friend, Ted. And, they seem to be the perfect couple. But only they know what’s actually going on. Heated arguments, breakup-patch-up loops, and what not- something more than normal for them. But somewhere in her heart, Lucy hopes that ONE day everything will be fine as Ted is the ONE!
Now, let’s come to that ONE day!
This is what Tom and Lucy expect and dream of.
And, What happens is this-
Well, let’s see.
Emma never told Tom that she was looking for the future. In fact, she never put the efforts that someone actually puts into the relationship.
She was outgoing and a wonderful girl. But, she was the kind of person who had no plan for the future(NO PLANS AT ALL) and, this was clear from her non-serious attitude towards her career and life.
It was the red flag that Tom intentionally ignored, thinking that no matter how unclear her thought process and outlook towards life were, She would always stand firm when it comes to our relationship.
And, then, one day she walked away…!
On other hand, Ted was the guy with all the clarity in life. And he knew from the first day that Lucy was NOT THE ONE!
He had plans for the future and life. He enjoyed and cherished the bond he shared with Lucy. But, he was not RELIABLE. It’s not because he was an unreliable person.
It’s just his plans(future) NEVER included Lucy. And that’s the point Lucy missed. And, then one fine day, Ted walked away…! Most of us have traits that of Tom & Emma, Lucy & Ted. And that’s why most of the relationships don’t work out.
The ONE
There is no concept of THE ONE. And, it’s the hardest thing to believe for hopeless romantic people.
(And, most of us are HOPELESS ROMANTIC 😏)
Where do we get wrong-
- We decide on our own that THIS PERSON IS THE ONE! Funny part: you never really asked him/her if he/she feels the same before fixing minds on the ONE.
- We don’t know how to read between the situations and take the red flags seriously.
- We live in a fairyland where all our wishes are supposed to come true 🙁
But, Romanticism is this way only. We know, and we ignore. We usually see-zone the reality and forget to see through the wall. Maybe, behind the wall, the story is not as cozy as we imagine it to be.
What do you think about THE ONE?
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Previously Published on medium
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