Did you think it was girls? Nah. We’re on our way, but not quite there yet.
Last night, as I was randomly scrolling through YouTube, I came across a video that stopped me in my sleepy tracks. The video was titled ‘Women are getting scared because men no longer want to date them’.
Wait, what? That’s not the info I (and the rest of the world) have.
Since Tinder has a gender imbalance, with 75% of users identifying as male, I’d say it’s the men who want to date and the women who don’t, with more and more women choosing a career over marriage.
As you can see, it’s quite the other way around. It’s the women who choose to no longer date men. How scared men are at that idea is debatable. I’d say quite, since incels now have their own form of violent extremism. But I’m just speculating.
What was this about then? Obviously, it was clickbait and it worked on me: I took the bait.
To my amazement, I found a whole (successful!) YouTube channel advising men to stop dating, and harshly castigating the ones who are still doing it.
And it wasn’t the only channel. I found a few more with the same message. Women are evil. Keep away. Use and abuse. Let’s show those manipulative witches who’s boss.
All the videos came with a plethora of male comments that were complaining about women being awful and useless. A lot of them also declared themselves happy to have found the ideal relationship with… their hand!
I kid you not! Apparently, her name is Palmela. I didn’t make this up, this is happening as we speak! Plenty of YouTube channels are advising men to keep away from women because they’re evil, dangerous, and I believe I even saw the label ‘shapeshifters’ one time.
The owners of these channels insist that women shouldn’t be dated. Using them for sex is ok, but dating is prohibited, because:
- women have higher and higher body counts and that’s disgusting (from this I understand it’s a man’s touch that makes a woman disgusting, but maybe that’s just my flawed female logic)
- women spread diseases (1. I thought rats did that, and 2. Since the diseases referred to are mostly sexual, where exactly do they get them from, if not from men?)
- women only use men as ATMs and in the inevitable event of a divorce, men have to give them all their hard-earned money (because obviously, only men work and only they are hard earners.)
- women only care about themselves and their brats (wait, what? Are women able to self-impregnate now?)
- women are manipulative, chameleonic, and can’t be trusted (says the man who has an entire faceless YouTube channel dedicated to manipulating others)
- ‘women will lay down when the barbarians are at the gates’
I have to say… while I did find the first few ones too ridiculous to even consider, that last one is really low.
So it’s still the women being forced into submission through physical force that are to blame for deciding to adapt any way they could to the harsh conditions? Women are blamed for survival now?
What’s even worse, the channel’s first posted video was in May of 2022. It has tens of thousands of views and a following of almost 30K men (I imagine it’s mostly men, right?). These figures are huge for 6 months of YouTube.
My initial thought was to make the exact same channel, but for women. But it was nothing more than a knee-jerk reaction caused by what I considered utter injustice against women. I got over it in about half a minute.
I also got over the idea of injustice.
If you think about it, it’s quite fair. If a bunch of men, frustrated by the fact that women don’t respond to their advances are unwilling to do any work on themselves to change the situation, and the best they can do is resort to name-calling, blaming, and violence, Palmela is the best they deserve.
No woman needs to be subjected to the presence of these guys.
I’m looking forward to the moment when the owners of the channel will start to capitalize on their gullible subscribers and start selling their products. Maybe some subscriptions to a hustle university, like Tate’s? Or a Substack letter denigrating the modern woman with appellatives they can’t have on YouTube lest they demonetize the videos?
Although I gave up on the idea as soon as I had it, I did take it one step further to find this site’s counterpart: a YouTube channel pleading with women to give up dating and only use men for their body, money, or… I don’t know, their strong arms?
I couldn’t find any. If my searching skills are so low and anybody ever came across anything of the sort, please help me with links in the comments. I’m really curious.
So unless my female logic fails me, I believe that if a channel like that worked for women, there would have already been one. A successful and easily accessible one. But there isn’t.
Now either women don’t want to expose themselves as the conniving manipulating shrews that they are (although you can make a faceless YouTube channel, just like this guy did) or they’re really not into that. Who’s the conniving shrew now?
As a side note on the idea of men (and I said men, not immature frustrated boys) staying single, I’m actually all for it. Especially younger men are better off concentrating on developing the skills they need for a fulfilling life, working on their careers, and being better people.
Dating should come second to that. If they can do both at the same time, it’s great. But if the idea of chasing women gets much more interesting than working on their own life, they need to take a step back and reassess.
It’s the same for young women. There’s a time in life when it’s best to work on yourself and leave the boy-chasing as a fun pass time. At least for a while. But again, if you’re so disciplined to be able to do both, more power to you.
The idea is: become a better human being before you get into a relationship.
Some (like Peterson) argue that there should be a fair and equal distribution of one woman per man. An idea also known as ‘enforced monogamy’. Otherwise, all these lonely young men will grow angry and violent because they are rejected by women.
Umm… so?!
How is that a woman’s responsibility? Why is any woman supposed to take one for the team just because some men have no control over their own emotions? Why should women sacrifice themselves? Because it’s been their duty for centuries?
How about if we just curb the violence at the source instead of feeding virgins to an angry incel god? I didn’t hear anyone saying we should keep serial killers at bay by providing them with victims from time to time.
But who knows? Maybe somebody will come up with a YouTube channel for that too.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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