We have been told that pain equals gain – subtly and blatantly – since the day we are born (into the most traumatic transformation of our physical lives). What if life was actually a little bit easier than all that?
There are times when I feel like I must be in some kind of existential birth canal, diving forth into a new plane of reality where life is only likely to continue being as cuddly and warm as luck will allow… we don’t get to choose our born-into circumstances… and we often don’t get to choose the circumstances of our life’s challenges.
We just slide into our new world screaming and bloody, looking for someone to love us for bringing solely our intrinsic gifts.
It’s a wet hot mess, personal transformation.
But wouldn’t it be sweet if life got a little easier during the process?
Wouldn’t a personal transformation midwife be such a huge relief? I mean, for so many of us, especially us entrepreneurial types, we’re trying to both birth the baby and be the baby at the same time. You know the paradox of the chicken or the egg? Yeah, that’s you, as you’re trying to create personal transformation.
For me, I’m trying to both hold higher wealth consciousness (which works!) and also build a business while bootstrapping (which is hard!). That affects EVERYTHING!
Sometimes I sit back and wonder… would it be okay if life got easier?
I mean, I love my life! I love it. Sincerely. Deeply. Presently. Daily. But I like ease and want more of it.
It’s funny. Once I admitted to myself that I know deep down there are no conditions I need to meet to be valuable… just like I know deep down that there are no conditions I need to meet to be loved… everything changed.
Am I a millionaire yet? No. I’m still in process… but things are moving in the right direction, bookings and clients are coming from thin air, and I have mentors who are raising my game to an 11.
And that’s the secret: mentors are midwives. A good mentor will make your transformation easier, quicker and less painful. But before you can receive the midwifery (this entire post was just a ploy so I could use “midwifery” in context), you will need to get over the “I only deserve to be valued when I’ve been through pain and toil” belief. It’s limiting.
You deserve goodness. You are goodness. There is nothing else.
(If that’s hard for you to feel or believe, hit me up in the comments section or head over to DaleThomasVaughn.com for more reinforcement)
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