Dating apps can destroy your self-esteem.
Even if you land a few dates on these platforms, this is something worth keeping an eye on.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of basing your self-worth on your Tinder results.
But that’s completely unnecessary.
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Be Aware Of The Competition
Men outnumber women on dating apps, by as many as 9 to 1 in some countries.
On top of that, men swipe right more and are far more willing to ‘date down’ than women, especially when there’s no risk of public rejection.
The result is: even average women are overwhelmed with attention from super-handsome men on these apps.
And that has made them even more selective than they would have otherwise been.
Since most of their right-swipes result in matches, they choose only to swipe on only the very best.
That’s why even above-average guys can end up with zero matches. Check the guide below for some crazy statistics about this.
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Your Photos Are Probably Bad
Your Tinder results aren’t even a reflection of how good-looking you are.
If you have bad photos, you’ll often be left-swiped regardless of your appearance.
And most guys have terrible photos!
This quickly became apparent in my role as a dating coach for men.
- I made a free ‘Tinder Secrets’ e-book explaining how to create great online dating photos, which you should click here to download right now.
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The Algorithm Is Probably Screwing You Over
Dating app companies keep the finer details of their algorithms under wraps.
But we can assume there’s something that puts the most popular male profiles towards the top of the Tinder pack.
That would satisfy women and keep them using the app, after all.
So, if you’re an average guy in a big city, there’s every chance you could be somewhere between 10,000th and 20,000th in line.
Your profile might barely be seen. Even if it’s an OK one!
There are conspiracies about Tinder limiting the reach of male profiles to encourage them to buy add-ons like Tinder Gold. While there’s no proof of this, it’s important to remember that dating apps exist to make money. If they made it easy for men to find love, their profits would suffer.
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Go Out and Meet Women in the Real World
Do you really want to leave your love life in the hands of a computer algorithm? One that exists to keep you on the app and prise your money away?
This might feel comfortable in the short-term, but it gets most men garbage results in the long-term.
The alternative is going outside and meeting women in the real world. This gives you an advantage over other men, most of whom are too nervous to do it.
It puts you to the front of the queue for a woman’s attention, rather than being 9,000th in the Tinder pack and 800th in her inbox.
More importantly, it allows you to win her over with your personality instead of a few photos and a bio.
This is how you beat the Tinder algorithm and date ‘out of their league’.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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