Goodness knows, we need guidance. Mark Sherman is happy to oblige.
There are some people who spend more time deciding which car to buy than whom to marry. Admittedly, a car is important—a close second to your spouse, actually—and some of us will spend as much time alone in our cars as we spend awake with our spouse.
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of our rural roots in a high-paced urban world. Yes, it is all these things. But still, people do it in large numbers. And when people go to the altar and say their vows, they really do intend to make it stick. The question is, How can you make that most likely?
Give up trying to achieve anything.
Avoid the conflict between individual satisfaction vs. marital harmony by giving up your ambitions. Isn’t this what Buddhist monks do? By living in a monastery, they’re giving up a lot. At least you’re having fun with the person you love. All you’re giving up are your dreams of fulfillment and success.
Compare your spouse to no one.
Don’t ever compare your spouse unfavorably to anyone else’s spouse, ESPECIALLY in terms of looks. Don’t even do this in a subtle way: “Steve’s wife is very attractive, isn’t she?” Once you are married, it is important that you act like you never notice anyone else’s spouse. In fact, it may be a good idea to wear a blindfold when you’re with other couples.
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A good read. Thanks! I disagree with rule #1. You are not giving up your ambitions, you are working together as a team to meet a different set of challenges. My alternative to rule #1 would simply be: “Be kind to you spouse”. Rule #2 should be etched on a stone tablet and given to every groom. Rule #3 is also true. I can think of a few others; like “Rule #4: Listen.”, “Rule #5: Study your spouse.” and rule #6: “She is usually right; but you are always responsible”. Still, I’ve only been married for 26 years, so what… Read more »