About Andrew Smiler

Andrew Smiler, PhD is a therapist, evaluator, author, and speaker residing in Winston-Salem, North Carolina (USA). He is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of promiscuous young male sexuality” and co-author, with Chris Kilmartin, of “The Masculine Self (5th edition)”. He is a past president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity and has taught at Wake Forest University and SUNY Oswego. Dr. Smiler's research focuses on definitions of masculinity. He also studies normative aspects of sexual development, such as age and perception of first kiss, first “serious” relationship, and first intercourse among 15-25 year olds. Follow him @AndrewSmiler.

Creating Sexually Healthy Young Men: A Cultural Failure

Dr. Andrew Smiler discusses why we think so little of male sexuality. — When it comes to dating and sex, American don’t think highly of young men. Perhaps it’s all those politicians tweeting di** pics, all the male celebrities cheating on their partners, the perpetual stories of male undergrads assaulting their female peers, or the […]

7 Areas of Coupled Life You Must Discuss

Andrew P. Smiler, PhD, says you can have a satisfying long term relationship by discussing these 7 areas of coupled life with your partner. Staying with someone for the long term – married, cohabiting, or some other status – is complicated. Anyone can tell you that. Disagreements are inevitable. The key to happiness is talking […]

How to Make A Mass Shooter

Dr. Andrew Smiler lists some of the factors that mass shooters have in common. — Another week, another mass killing. This time, at Unpqua Community College in Roseburg, Oregon. Here in the US, we’ve had shootings in churches, movie theatres, at all types of schools (elementary, high school, colleges), and even military bases. Back in […]

Pope Francis: A New Masculinity

What are Pope Francis’ beliefs about masculinity?

Why Guys Really Talk About Sports

Sports talk is more than just a way to break the ice. It helps guys stay connected to each other.

Yes, Men’s Studies. You Got a Problem with That?

Dr. Andrew Smiler argues that Men’s Studies is necessary and the logical complement to Women’s and LGBTQ Studies.  A few weeks ago, the New York Times pondered “A Master’s Degree in…Masculinity?” The headline itself suggests the NYT is not convinced this is a good idea. Placing the article, written by Jessica Bennett, in the Fashion […]

Why Are Most Violent People Male?

Andrew Smiler considers several reasons why violent people are more likely to be male than female.

Male Promiscuity by the Numbers: 25-15-5

Dr. Andrew Smiler checks the numbers and finds that most guys aren’t promiscuous.

The Healing Power of Compassion

Dr. Edward Adams talks about how to elicit men’s compassion towards themselves and others.  Ben was a wounded man. His wife divorced him to marry her lover and moved far away making it inaccessible and expensive for Ben to father his three children in a meaningful way. He defined himself as “a man reduced to […]

Men Singing about Fidelity: New in Pop Radio

Dr. Andrew Smiler discusses the oddity of a pop song that describes a man refusing a hookup.

The Day Rock Hudson Got AIDS: A Turning Point in American Culture

ndrew Smiler reflects on the cultural changes that followed the announcement that Rock Hudson had AIDS.

Postpartum Depression: A Tough Reality for Fathers

Anthony Isacco identifies the symptoms of male depression related to childbirth and why health professionals don’t notice those symptoms.

Police Officers or Peace Officers?: The Limitations of Traditional Masculinity for Law Enforcement

Retired Police Officer and current Clinical Psychologist Ive Eicken describes how old notions of masculinity may prevent police officers from being peace officers. Most of us depend on law enforcement officers to keep us safe. We call the police when something has already gone very wrong. We want the officer who shows up to be […]

Male Abusers: Damned and Desired

Andrew Smiler is stunned by how quickly we can go from expressing concern about domestic violence at the Grammy’s to idealizing it in 50 Shades.

How to Buy a Gift for the Man in Your Life

Andrew Smiler describes how to choose a gift that will say “I Love You” in a language he’ll understand.

Shia LaBeouf Says He Was Raped. Will Anyone Listen?

Andrew Smiler discusses ways in which male stereotypes make it hard to care that LaBeouf was raped.