About Andrew Smiler

Andrew Smiler, PhD is a therapist, evaluator, author, and speaker residing in Winston-Salem, North Carolina (USA). He is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of promiscuous young male sexuality” and co-author, with Chris Kilmartin, of “The Masculine Self (5th edition)”. He is a past president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity and has taught at Wake Forest University and SUNY Oswego. Dr. Smiler's research focuses on definitions of masculinity. He also studies normative aspects of sexual development, such as age and perception of first kiss, first “serious” relationship, and first intercourse among 15-25 year olds. Follow him @AndrewSmiler.

3 Important Ways Men’s Sexuality Changes as They Age

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Andrew Smiler says changes in male sexuality in mid-life aren’t just about things going downhill.

When Hooking Up with Her is All About Impressing the Other Guys

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Andrew Smiler explores the ways that hookups get used to strengthen male-male friendships and argues they’re all wrong.

Why Are We Indifferent to Male Rape Victims?

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Andrew Smiler wonders why we give so little public attention to boys and men who have been sexually assaulted or raped.

5 Things To Do Instead of Hitting Your Partner

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Hitting your partner is a choice, but it’s not the only one. Here are 5 other options.

Why Are Most Violent People Male?

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Andrew Smiler considers several reasons why violent people are more likely to be male than female.

To Watch or Not To Watch: Morality, TV, and Sunday Football

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If a man tries to promote better treatment of men (and women), can he ethically watch professional football?

The Power of Men’s Love

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Andrew Smiler argues that men’s love is incredibly powerful and that American culture can’t deal.

JLo Threatening Jimmy Fallon for Wearing Tight Pants Isn’t Funny

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If we want men to be less aggressive, we need to stop acting like violence against men is funny. Do you agree?

4 Straightforward, No Cost Steps to Stress Relief for Men

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Jed Diamond’s four step system to stress relief can help you lead a happier life.

19 Terms for Relationships that Dehumanize Women

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Words say a lot about how we think. These 19 expressions say we don’t value women in relationships.

The Women Are Smarter. So What?

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Are research findings that girls have better grades than boys a challenge to the male ego?

What Hooking Up Means to Your Teenage Son: Notes for Parents

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Andrew Smiler lists 9 things parents need to know when talking to their teens about dating and hooking up.

Do Boys Deserve Credit for the Declining Teen Birth Rate?

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The reason that teen pregnancy rates have plunged in the last few years is because boys are behaving more responsibly.

6 Ways Jokes about Violence Against Men Harms Male Victims

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Andrew Smiler lists six reasons why we should stop laughing at male victims of violence.

The Prom Tux: Turning Teen Boys Into Inexpressive Men?

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Andrew Smiler says the standard black prom tux limits boys’ ability to express themselves and believes this is a problem.

14 Things You Must Teach Your Son about Sex

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Andrew Smiler highlights 14 aspects of sexuality that every parent should teach their sons.