About Andrew Smiler

Andrew Smiler, PhD is a therapist, evaluator, author, and speaker residing in Winston-Salem, North Carolina (USA). He is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of promiscuous young male sexuality” and co-author, with Chris Kilmartin, of “The Masculine Self (5th edition)”. He is a past president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity and has taught at Wake Forest University and SUNY Oswego. Dr. Smiler's research focuses on definitions of masculinity. He also studies normative aspects of sexual development, such as age and perception of first kiss, first “serious” relationship, and first intercourse among 15-25 year olds. Follow him @AndrewSmiler.

Police Officers or Peace Officers?: The Limitations of Traditional Masculinity for Law Enforcement

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Retired Police Officer and current Clinical Psychologist Ive Eicken describes how old notions of masculinity may prevent police officers from being peace officers. Most of us depend on law enforcement officers to keep us safe. We call the police when something has already gone very wrong. We want the officer who shows up to be […]

Male Abusers: Damned and Desired

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Andrew Smiler is stunned by how quickly we can go from expressing concern about domestic violence at the Grammy’s to idealizing it in 50 Shades.

How to Buy a Gift for the Man in Your Life

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Andrew Smiler describes how to choose a gift that will say “I Love You” in a language he’ll understand.

Shia LaBeouf Says He Was Raped. Will Anyone Listen?

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Andrew Smiler discusses ways in which male stereotypes make it hard to care that LaBeouf was raped.

Online Videos Causing IRL Erectile Problems? These Three Steps Can Help

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Andrew Smiler discusses a straightforward and often effective solution to adult video-induced erectile difficulties.

Teen Fathers: Trying and Barely Hanging On

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Dr. Andrew Irvin Smiler continues to unpack the lives of teenage dads, identifying the struggles, the emotions, and feeling locked out of your own life.

Teen Fathers: A Typical Day

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Dr. Andrew Irwin-Smiler looks at a day in the life of a teen father: confusion, sadness, and love.

Jim Carrey, Sex Educator

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Clint Greagen explains how Jim Carrey helped him start the sex ed conversation with his 8-year old son.

3 Important Ways Men’s Sexuality Changes as They Age

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Andrew Smiler says changes in male sexuality in mid-life aren’t just about things going downhill.

When Hooking Up with Her is All About Impressing the Other Guys

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Andrew Smiler explores the ways that hookups get used to strengthen male-male friendships and argues they’re all wrong.

Why Are We Indifferent to Male Rape Victims?

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Andrew Smiler wonders why we give so little public attention to boys and men who have been sexually assaulted or raped.

5 Things To Do Instead of Hitting Your Partner

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Hitting your partner is a choice, but it’s not the only one. Here are 5 other options.

Why Are Most Violent People Male?

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Andrew Smiler considers several reasons why violent people are more likely to be male than female.

To Watch or Not To Watch: Morality, TV, and Sunday Football

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If a man tries to promote better treatment of men (and women), can he ethically watch professional football?

The Power of Men’s Love

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Andrew Smiler argues that men’s love is incredibly powerful and that American culture can’t deal.

JLo Threatening Jimmy Fallon for Wearing Tight Pants Isn’t Funny

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If we want men to be less aggressive, we need to stop acting like violence against men is funny. Do you agree?