About Thomas G. Fiffer

Thomas G. Fiffer, Executive Editor at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He posts regularly on his blog, Tom Aplomb, and serves as Editor of Westport's HamletHub, a local online news and information service. He is also a featured storyteller with MouseMuse Productions and is working on his first novel.

Can Being Selfish Make You a Better Partner?

Can Being Selfish by Ken Bosma

Thomas Fiffer (selfishly) believes that looking out for #1 makes you a better mate.

How to Ask Your Crush Out on a Date

How to Ask Your Crush by Wellcast

The hardest part of approaching someone you like is … the anticipation of it. What have you got to lose?

5 Tips for Teens to Quiet Negative Self-Talk About Your Body

5 Tips for Teens by Wellcast

Teens tear themselves apart over how they look. Wellcast offers five sensible tips to lose the self-criticism and build self-esteem.

3 Ways to Tell If a Mistake Really Matters

3 Ways to Tell by spablab

Some mistakes are game-changers and some aren’t. Thomas Fiffer offers three questions to help understand the difference.

5 Things Skilled Lovers Do Better

5 Things Skilled Lovers by Nick Webb

Thomas Fiffer shares the secrets skilled lovers use to keep their partners happy.

Is Your Partner Giving You Enough?

Is Your Partner Giving by louiscrusoe

Thomas Fiffer poses the one question that just might save your next relationship.

What a Man Does for the Woman He Loves

What a Man Does by Tyree Gibson

This husband takes devotion to a whole new level.

Maybe We’re Not Meant to Be Happy

Maybe We're Not Meant by Morgan

Thomas Fiffer wonders whether happiness is hard to achieve because we’ve evolved to oppose it.

How to Feel Like a Man

How to Feel Like a Man by Art of Manliness

Some boys grow up and never quite feel like men. The Art of Manliness says you feel like a man when you start acting like one and offers some manly advice on how to begin.

What Is Codependency?

What Is Codependency by Carrier Clinic

For anyone wondering if you’re codependent or with someone who is, this short video provides answers.

3 Ways Being Nice Will Hurt Your Relationship

3 Ways Being by David Goehring

Thomas Fiffer reveals 3 ways being nice is the worst thing you can do to your partner.

Meet Andrew Gray, a Man Who Respects Women

Meet Andrew Gray by Andrew Gray

Part poetry, part PSA, part pure genius, Andrew Gray’s riveting riff on why men don’t respect women and how to change it will leave you speechless.

Why Is Sex Advice for Women Always About Pleasing Men? (NSFW)

Why Is Sex Advice by Button Poetry

Two spoken word poets take on the tawdry, tired, and often terrible tips for pleasing men found in women’s magazines and ask, “What about me? What about my body? What about my pleasure?”

Like Father, Like Son: Baby Flexes Muscles With Dad

Like Father Like by Rumble Viral

Watch this adorable baby imitate his father in the time-honored ritual of muscle flexing.

3 Things You Didn’t Know He Wants You to Do in Bed

3 Things You Didn't by Gabriel S Delgado C

Thomas Fiffer reveals three things men want from women in bed but rarely, if ever, ask for.

5 Signs It Isn’t Love, Even Though They Say, ‘I Love You’

5 Signs It Isn't by nicholas

Have you been burned by ‘love’? Thomas Fiffer identifies five red flags you’re not likely to be looking for at the start of an intimate relationship.