About Thomas G. Fiffer

Thomas G. Fiffer, Executive Editor at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He posts regularly on his blog, Tom Aplomb, and serves as Editor of Westport's HamletHub, a local online news and information service. He is also a featured storyteller with MouseMuse Productions and is working on his first novel.

OMG! This Looks Like Soooooo Much Fun!

OMG This Looks Like by NGHTMRE

Sometimes, an image, or a sequence of images, totally captures a feeling. That’s the case with this thrilling music video for “Walking on Sunshine.”

How to Tell the Difference Between a Boundary and a Threat

How to Tell the Difference by Richard Thomas

Sometimes it’s hard to know if someone is drawing a boundary or making a threat. Thomas Fiffer offers a framework to help make the distinction.

PTSD and the War at Home: A Soldier’s Story of Return and Recovery

PTSD and the War at Home by DINFOS

Sgt Billy Caviness, who was wounded in Afghanistan, recounts his battle with post-traumatic stress disorder.

Marine Sings ‘Home’ on Flight Back From Training

Marine Sings Home by Matt Bussen

Matt Bussen’s soulful in-flight rendition of Michael Bublé’s “Home” gives voice to every soldier’s feelings on homecoming.

Cool Dad Raps in the Car With His Sons

Cool Dad Raps by Derek Clark

Look out Eminem. This dad can really rip it up!

The Brilliance Behind the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

The Brilliance Behind by Hot Gossip Italia

Thomas Fiffer reveals the psychology that has made the Ice Bucket Challenge so wildly successful.

The Dangers of Texting … With an Emotionally Abusive Partner

The Dangers of Texting by Mariah Wisner

This heartbreaking text exchange with an emotionally abusive partner will feel all too familiar to anyone in a relationship characterized by domination and control.

What Do ALS and Ferguson Have in Common? The ‘Reverse the Hate’ Challenge

What Do ALS and by Orlando Jones

“Sleepy Hollow” star Orlando Jones co-opts the Ice Bucket Challenge to reverse the hate resulting from Ferguson.

Tears of Joy—a Soldier’s Homecoming

Tears of Joy by Bethany Bronson

Watch this soldier surprise his family as they’re making a video to send to him in Afghanistan.

Busting the Myths of Masculinity

Busting the Myths by TEDx Talks

Former pro football player Joe Ehrmann, now both a pastor and a coach, rips apart the three myths of masculinity and offers a new definition of what it means to be a man.

Breaking the Boys Code of Masculinity

Breaking the Boys Code by TEDx Talks

20 years after his 16-year-old sister was murdered, Bill Pozzobon found himself interviewing for a job in violence prevention and ended up tackling the boys’ code as enemy number one.

Enticement—the Feel-Good Stuff—Is Part of Abuse

Enticement by TEDx Talks

Kristin Carmichael explains how apologies, gifts, promises, and better behavior are not the end of abuse but part of the cycle that keeps victims trapped.

The Mended Heart

The Mended Heart by Horia Varlan

Losing his father at age nine fractured Thomas Fiffer’s heart, but he found his way back to wholeness.

A Man’s Best Friend—and His Dance Partner, Too

A Mans Best Friend by marcelokpz

This shirtless guy loves hip hop, and his dancing dog does, too!

Getting to No: How to Stop People Pleasing in Relationships

Getting to No by ExpandedBooks

Dr. Susan Newman, author of “The Book of No,” explains why we’re afraid to say no in relationships and shows us how to start.

10 Simple Steps to Stop Toxic Parenting

10 Simple Steps by Mike Fisher

Toxic parenting sets the stage for abusive adults and starts a cycle that is hard to escape. Thomas Fiffer offers 10 dos and don’ts to keep your parenting healthy and safe.