About Thomas G. Fiffer

Thomas G. Fiffer, Ethics Editor at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He posts daily on his blog, Tom Aplomb, and serves as Editor of Westport's HamletHub, a local online news and information service. He is also a featured storyteller with MouseMuse Productions and is working on his first novel.

A Perversion of Justice: Cuffed to the Bed, but It’s Not What You Think

Sick Justice by Robb1e

How the NYPD handles gunshot victims with outstanding warrants while they recover in the hospital.

Child Abuse Survivor Chris ‘Bear’ Brosnan Is Writing an Incredible True Story

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In “A Wild Nobility” Chris “Bear” Brosnan is transforming tragedy into triumph. But he needs your help to finish the job.

Cross-Dressing Comes to Broadway in ‘Casa Valentina’

Cross Dressing Comes to by Shankbone

The actors in a new play from Harvey Fierstein experience a different kind of male bonding.

Can Ya Dig It? ‘Shaft’ Meets ‘Mad Men’ in This Brilliant Blaxploitation Mashup

Can Ya Dig It by Leroy and Clarkson

Imagine Richard Roundtree playing Don Draper, and you’ve got “Don-O-Mite,” a rad mad ad man who explodes stereotypes for breakfast.

Dear John Harvard: A Plea to Stop the ‘Second Rape’ That Follows Campus Sexual Assaults

A Call to Stop by Wikimedia

A student’s anonymous letter, ‘Dear Harvard: You Win,’ and a law lecturer’s stinging follow-up underscore why Harvard must fight fiercely for affirmative consent.

The New Rules of Tolerance: You Can Hate, But You Can’t Lead

The New Rules of Tolerance by Sonny Black

Understanding that the law treats corporations as people puts Brendan Eich’s ouster from Mozilla in perspective: It’s not personal—it’s just business.

Like Parents, Like Children: The Dangers of Medicating Unhappiness, Stress, and Inconvenience

Like Parents Like Children by purplepenning

Thomas Fiffer exposes three inconvenient truths about adults and wonders if children’s “attention deficit” is nothing more than the lack of a compelling message?

“Rape Culture” Will End When Consent Becomes Sexy

Rape Culture Will End by Kickstarter

Look out rape culture, this 22-year-old entrepreneur’s gonna take you down, one thong at a time.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

Should I Stay by Wikipedia

The long-term relationships we choose have greater impact on our happiness and well-being than any other decisions we make. This simple, 10-second, yes or no test helps us determine whether to stay the course or head for the hills.

Why Couples Fight: The Real Cause of Conflict

Why Couples Fight by Tambako

All couples disagree, most argue, and some slug it out with words day after day. Thomas Fiffer reveals the real source of discord, how it escalates to conflict, and how to stop it from derailing your relationship.

Where Is the Line Between Love and Control? (Video)

Where Is the Line by loveisrespect

Watch a teenage boy on the phone with his girlfriend cross the line from friendly and concerned to controlling and abusive.

Preventing Our Deadliest Relationship Mistake

Preventing Our Deadliest by brianac37

If you want to maintain a healthy relationship, learn to stop managing your partner’s emotions.

Was It Rape or Just ‘A Crappy Situation’?

Was It Rape by Kelly Kend 1

In “Yeah Maybe, No” filmmaker Kelly Kend interviews a male rape survivor and explores the dynamics of doubt that cloud our collective understanding of consent.

The 3 Silent Destroyers of Marriage

The 3 Silent Killers by Cushing Memorial Library and Archives

Marriage Foundation founder Paul Friedman puts marriage under the microscope to stop three deadly killers from causing divorce.

Just What Is Rep. Tom Reed of NY Ashamed Of?

What Is Rep. Tom Reed by Philip Bump

A Congressman shares his painful personal experience with his colleagues and says, ‘No more.’

Make It End Differently: The Tragedy of Amy Homan McGee

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“Telling Amy’s Story” lays out how and why law enforcement, the justice system, colleagues, friends, and family fail to stop domestic violence before it claims lives.