About Thomas G. Fiffer

Thomas G. Fiffer, Senior Editor, Ethics, at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale University and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He is a professional writer, speaker, and storyteller with a focus on diagnosing and healing dysfunctional relationships. You can find out more about his publications and services at Thomas G. Fiffer, and connect with him on Facebook and Twitter. His books, Why It Can't Work: Detaching From Dysfunctional Relationships to Make Room for True Love and What Is Love? A Guide for the Perplexed to Matters of the Heart are available on Amazon. He lives in Connecticut and is working on his first novel.

10 Ways to Empower Yourself

You don’t need a book, life coach, mastermind group, or motivational retreat to get yourself going. The power to thrive is already inside you.

Making Kids Safer in Notorious Danger Zones

These veterans in Chicago stand guard on the front lines to give kids safe passage to and from school.

The Damage-Free Zone

When we’ve been hurt repeatedly, we need to seek out the damage-free zone for healing.

How to Ring in the New

Thomas Fiffer offers a new approach to starting the new year.

Your Gift, Your Choice … for the Holidays

For the holidays, Thomas Fiffer offers a brief meditation on the meaning of gifts.

Memories of a Road Not Taken

Thomas Fiffer remembers a time when life glittered with possibility.

Please Don’t Wring Your Hands or Preach to the Converted About the San Bernardino Mass Shooting

Thomas Fiffer doesn’t want to read your impassioned Facebook posts about the latest mass shooting in San Bernardino.

9 Signs You Might Be Codependent

How many signs of codependency are true for you?

Men (Yes, Men) Talk About Self-Esteem and Body Image

A group of men open up about the impossible standards of masculinity imposed by the media.

5 Ways to Keep Narcissists and Manipulators Out of Your Life

How to spot the red flags that mean you are dating a dangerous, destructive partner.

5 Signs You Might Be in a Dysfunctional and Toxic Relationship

In under 4 minutes, you’ll know if your relationship is healthy or toxic.

The Wounds of Abuse Are Like No Other

Thomas Fiffer finds the magic elixir that heals the hurt of emotional cruelty.

More on Escaping the Friendzone

Wellcasts’s follow up video on how to break free of the friend zone when you want a relationship.

Why I Feel Like Screaming When My Partner Is Being Nice

Thomas Fiffer shines a light on the lingering effects of emotional abuse.

Why You Shouldn’t Catcall

This video cuts through the confusion about catcalling and explains why it’s never OK.

How to Give Someone Bad News

The experts at Wellcast share tips on how to break bad news to family members, friends, and co-workers.