About Thomas G. Fiffer

Thomas G. Fiffer, Executive Editor at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He posts regularly on his blog, Tom Aplomb, and serves as Editor of Westport's HamletHub, a local online news and information service. He is also a featured storyteller with MouseMuse Productions and is working on his first novel.

Is Your Partner Giving You Enough?

Is Your Partner Giving by louiscrusoe

Thomas Fiffer poses the one question that just might save your next relationship.

What a Man Does for the Woman He Loves

What a Man Does by Tyree Gibson

This husband takes devotion to a whole new level.

Maybe We’re Not Meant to Be Happy

Maybe We're Not Meant by Morgan

Thomas Fiffer wonders whether happiness is hard to achieve because we’ve evolved to oppose it.

How to Feel Like a Man

How to Feel Like a Man by Art of Manliness

Some boys grow up and never quite feel like men. The Art of Manliness says you feel like a man when you start acting like one and offers some manly advice on how to begin.

What Is Codependency?

What Is Codependency by Carrier Clinic

For anyone wondering if you’re codependent or with someone who is, this short video provides answers.

3 Ways Being Nice Will Hurt Your Relationship

3 Ways Being by David Goehring

Thomas Fiffer reveals 3 ways being nice is the worst thing you can do to your partner.

Meet Andrew Gray, a Man Who Respects Women

Meet Andrew Gray by Andrew Gray

Part poetry, part PSA, part pure genius, Andrew Gray’s riveting riff on why men don’t respect women and how to change it will leave you speechless.

Why Is Sex Advice for Women Always About Pleasing Men? (NSFW)

Why Is Sex Advice by Button Poetry

Two spoken word poets take on the tawdry, tired, and often terrible tips for pleasing men found in women’s magazines and ask, “What about me? What about my body? What about my pleasure?”

Like Father, Like Son: Baby Flexes Muscles With Dad

Like Father Like by Rumble Viral

Watch this adorable baby imitate his father in the time-honored ritual of muscle flexing.

3 Things You Didn’t Know He Wants You to Do in Bed

3 Things You Didn't by Gabriel S Delgado C

Thomas Fiffer reveals three things men want from women in bed but rarely, if ever, ask for.

5 Signs It Isn’t Love, Even Though They Say, ‘I Love You’

5 Signs It Isn't by nicholas

Have you been burned by ‘love’? Thomas Fiffer identifies five red flags you’re not likely to be looking for at the start of an intimate relationship.

3 Reasons Making Sex Conditional Will Ruin Your Relationship

3 Reasons Why by David Goehring

Thomas Fiffer explains that making sex a reward for a man’s good behavior not only cheapens the experience but also devalues the relationship.

A Shockingly Simple Way to Stop Stereotyping Men

A Shockingly Simple Way by Jesse757

Stereotypes are damaging to both men and women. Thomas Fiffer offers a simple way to stop, reframe, and rethink some of the assumptions we make about men. And it works the other way, too.

The 1 Thing to Stop Doing When You’re Arguing With Your Partner

The 1 Thing by Craig Loftus

Thomas Fiffer points out the #1 mistake we make when our partner complains about us and offers a 3-step program for successful conflict resolution.

Understanding Sexualization of Girls

Understanding Sexualization

What happens to girls when we sexualize them?

Women Abuse Men, Too—But It’s Often Not Called Abuse

Women Abuse Men, Too by Chris Connelly

Thomas Fiffer reverses the genders in an article about abuse written for women to expose the euphemisms we use when women abuse men.