Why “Unbirthing” Is Good For Everybody

Surprised senior covering mouth with hand by Shutterstock

Is it too late in the game to say “the internet changes things?” I know that’s very late-nineties-trend-piece of me, but it’s still going on and we’re still discovering what it means. Our dull, meaty monkey brains just move so much slower than the things we make with them. So, for now, I’m going to […]

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Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel

Warning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to […]

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A Farewell

Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is […]

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Your Humble Editors are Reading Fifty Shades of Grey.

Because of course we are. Did you think we’d let you down? Never, baby. We’re gonna stick with you through the end. And we’re gonna protect you, and give you expensive gifts and get all up in your business and maybe cross a few lines but only because we’ve never wanted someone as much as […]

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Noble Hierarch is Not a Slut

As big nerds, Charles and I like to do nerdy things. Recently, we’ve managed to infiltrate a dear college friend’s weekly Magic: The Gathering club. This is super good news! I’m the only woman, but I’ve come to expect that. We have a lot of fun, though, so the strangenesses are pretty much excusable. There’s just one […]

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P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe

Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms […]

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Some Thoughts and Questions About BDSM PR

In December while visiting his family for the holidays, Charles and I stopped by the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago. The LA&M is a small, but scrupulously kept museum nestled in with a bunch of apartment complexes. The museum is identifiable by its sign bearing a gigantic boot, as well the resemblance of the […]

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Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape

This is a response to Charles’s post on the same subject. I disagree with him on a fair number of points, so I’m going to talk here. You should probably read his post before you read mine. I agree, absolutely, that media and culture teach us not to rape. I think that they teach us not […]

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http://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/editors-note-there-are-points-in-this-argument/

Editor’s Note: There are points in this argument that Your Other Humble Editor, Rust, disagrees with. Her response is here. A friend of my reposted this today (I presume it’s from here but I can’t find the original post) with the caption “apparently this is controversial?” And we had a good laugh because, seriously, the world […]

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On “Fee-Fees”

It probably comes as no surprise that I really hate the term “fee-fees.” For those of you more fortunate than I, “fee-fees” is a disparaging term that SJ folks throw around. It means “feelings” and is usually used in the context of “I don’t care about your fee-fees,” or “oh no, your precious fee-fees!” or other statements […]

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The Story of Us

On this day last year, Charles and I decided that we were going to give dating a try. Our relationship had, in the past couple of weeks between then and when we first met at a munch exploded hilariously and somewhat consumingly from people who took a shine to each other at a munch[1], to […]

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Call Me Old-Fashioned, Maybe

Pop is timeless. That’s sort of what’s cool about it. At its best it’s really universal and effortlessly relatable.[1] At its weakest, it’s boring and predictable music rehashing tired tropes we’re all sick of. And sometimes instead of being timeless it falls into anachronistic. And that’s squarely where Anointed Summer Jam of Twenty-Twelve “Call Me […]

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A Milestone

Today, your Humble Editors received their very first frothingly indignant reblog! I’m not gonna shame ‘em by linking it directly and pointing out that it literally just reiterates the position we argue against with a lot of elongated, whiny words and caps (“FEEEEELLLLLIINNGGSS”), but I will quote my favorite poorly punctuated sentence: holy shit this […]

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http://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/i-got-called-a-concern-troll-last-week-i-almost/

I got called a concern troll last week. I almost laughed aloud. For everyone not priorly familiar with the trendiest terms of disregard in SJ circles, a concern troll is a pretty bad thing to be. I’ll defer to better-curated voices than mine. Rationalwiki states that a concern troll “visits sites of an opposing ideology and offers advice on […]

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Why I Cringe When Someone Tells Me To “Educate Myself.”

Someone (you know who you are) showed me and Charles the pretty amazing meme Tumblr. I worry it makes us and this post irrelevant and sad, but we’re gonna soldier on. So, let’s do it. It’s time for Olivia to examine feminist and SJ discursive paradigms that are terrible and harmful! Woo. I hate “go do […]

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The Mainstream and the BDSM Bubble

Something that is true about people in kink[1] is that, almost universally, we are afraid. We are socially afraid of what will happen if our friends or family members figure out what it is that we do for fun. We are financially afraid of losing our jobs if our predilections come to light. Some of us […]

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