Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape

This is a response to Charles’s post on the same subject. I disagree with him on a fair number of points, so I’m going to talk here. You should probably read his post before you read mine. I agree, absolutely, that media and culture teach us not to rape. I think that they teach us not […]

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http://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/editors-note-there-are-points-in-this-argument/

Editor’s Note: There are points in this argument that Your Other Humble Editor, Rust, disagrees with. Her response is here. A friend of my reposted this today (I presume it’s from here but I can’t find the original post) with the caption “apparently this is controversial?” And we had a good laugh because, seriously, the world […]

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On “Fee-Fees”

It probably comes as no surprise that I really hate the term “fee-fees.” For those of you more fortunate than I, “fee-fees” is a disparaging term that SJ folks throw around. It means “feelings” and is usually used in the context of “I don’t care about your fee-fees,” or “oh no, your precious fee-fees!” or other statements […]

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The Story of Us

On this day last year, Charles and I decided that we were going to give dating a try. Our relationship had, in the past couple of weeks between then and when we first met at a munch exploded hilariously and somewhat consumingly from people who took a shine to each other at a munch[1], to […]

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Call Me Old-Fashioned, Maybe

Pop is timeless. That’s sort of what’s cool about it. At its best it’s really universal and effortlessly relatable.[1] At its weakest, it’s boring and predictable music rehashing tired tropes we’re all sick of. And sometimes instead of being timeless it falls into anachronistic. And that’s squarely where Anointed Summer Jam of Twenty-Twelve “Call Me […]

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A Milestone

Today, your Humble Editors received their very first frothingly indignant reblog! I’m not gonna shame ‘em by linking it directly and pointing out that it literally just reiterates the position we argue against with a lot of elongated, whiny words and caps (“FEEEEELLLLLIINNGGSS”), but I will quote my favorite poorly punctuated sentence: holy shit this […]

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http://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/i-got-called-a-concern-troll-last-week-i-almost/

I got called a concern troll last week. I almost laughed aloud. For everyone not priorly familiar with the trendiest terms of disregard in SJ circles, a concern troll is a pretty bad thing to be. I’ll defer to better-curated voices than mine. Rationalwiki states that a concern troll “visits sites of an opposing ideology and offers advice on […]

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Why I Cringe When Someone Tells Me To “Educate Myself.”

Someone (you know who you are) showed me and Charles the pretty amazing meme Tumblr. I worry it makes us and this post irrelevant and sad, but we’re gonna soldier on. So, let’s do it. It’s time for Olivia to examine feminist and SJ discursive paradigms that are terrible and harmful! Woo. I hate “go do […]

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Why This Blog Cannot and Will Not Discuss Race

1) Your Humble Editors are both white as fuck. So, actually, we’d love to believe that we live in the sort of perfect world where “talking about identity politics while not being a member of an oppressed group” wasn’t a crime. But we’re miles from there and we don’t even know the roads. It took me […]

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Sarcasm

I love sarcasm. Need to appear witty, urbane, and above-it-all? Sarcasm has your back. Need to indicate amused disdain for something? Call sarcasm! But sarcasm and I are having something of a falling-out right now. And when you love something, you should blog about it. That’s how the saying goes, right? Seriously, though, sarcasm is […]

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Look, Kitten, You’re a Rhetorical Monstrosity

After long discussion, your humble editors have come to the conclusion that Look, Kitten might actually embody The Worst About Internet Feminism as She Is Practiced. Given that fact, it feels almost a little unfair to argue against it. It’s like taking down a straw-man, except with a veneer of intellect ual respectability added because, well, someone is […]

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Look, Kitten, You’re Being a Sexist part 3

All right. We’re nearly through. This is part three of three of my response to this here Lawsonry article concerning male feminists and “fauxminism.” Parts one and two are here and here (respectively). This run-down goes through the original article’s arguments chronologically, so you might want to read the first two parts before jumping in here. […]

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Look, Kitten, You’re Being a Sexist part 2

Back for more? Me, too! This is Part two of a three part saga dismantling the arguments found in this Lawsonry post about what makes a male feminist a “fauxminist.” Part one is here. Consider reading it because the response follows Milanese’s points chronologically. He insists that feminism must make time for men and men’s issues. Hoo boy. […]

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Look, Kitten, You’re Being a Sexist part 1

While it’s not well-documented (yet), my relationship with feminism on the internet is… troubled Now, I’m a feminist. I’m even an angry, pretty radical feminist. I call people out for slut shaming and the use of certain gendered words, I yell at television shows when they’re being sexist (Rake is very tolerant) and I earnestly […]

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Olivia Is Not a Woman

Hi, everybody. My name is Olivia and I have trouble ascribing feminine labels to myself. This is notable for three reasons: 1) I am a cis woman. For those of you who don’t hang out around gendertalks as much as I do, this means that in utero and at birth, doctors looked at me and […]

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Seven Totally Fearless Radical New Things to Spice Up the Sexy Back Into Your Va-Jay-Jay On The Go, All Night.

1. Punch him in the chest. Studies that we gesture at vaguely and never cite show that this increases blood flow, which can really heat up that “special time of night.” 2. Ok, alright. Seriously, I don’t know why we have to say this aloud but: you can do other stuff while having oral pleasantries. […]

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