This is a comment by Eagle35 on the comment of the day: “Women are not the benchmark for manhood.”
If you were writing the lesson plans for an introduction to manhood, what would you include?
“Here’s what I would add in as part of the curriculum To all the young men and boys here in this class, I would like to say:
“You are NOT at fault for the ills of the world. Don’t listen to the people that rub it in your face with ‘Men start all the wars’, ‘If women ran the world, things would be more peaceful’, ‘All men are rapists and criminals, statistics prove it’ etc. Anyone who does that, you have the right to defend yourself, your principles and your integrity. This class supports, and endorses, you.
“You are NOT responsible for oppression. People forget that society involves both genders so women are responsible too. But if anyone tries to pin it all on your shoulders, believing that men should get a taste of their own medicine for oppressing women a long time, you have the right to point out just how hurtful and exclusionary this point of view is. This class supports, and endorses, you.
“If any of you have ever been hurt by women or girls in the past or currently going through it, you MATTER! People say that men’s pain, when caused by a woman or girl, isn’t worth examining and likely have pulled the ‘Women have it worse’ cannard. Especially towards male survivors of female abuse. In this class, YOU MATTER! No one is going to dismiss, diminish or invalidate your pain and sadness. If you feel the need to express it, do so. No one is going to judge or belittle. A safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment is the key towards building your self-esteem back up and defending yourself against the ignorance society pushes on your trauma.
“I would at least use that as the opening towards the curriculum.”
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