We are all multi-dimensional and have many aspects to how we should define ourselves.
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This comment was by Scott DuRoff in reference to the post – What is Inclusive Masculinity
Thoughtful perspectives that I believe miss an important point. What is being discussed is “maleness” not masculinity. The masculine is not exclusive to men any more than the feminine is exclusive to women. Masculinity and femininity are gender constructs. They do NOT reflect a person’s biological sex per se. Real change will only occur when we realize that there are three distinct aspects when it comes to this discussion: Biological SEX (which includes both our sex at birth and later, the sex we identify with as in the case of trans folk),
GENDER (which some of us see as a continuum from feminine to masculine) which is NOT related to sex,
and SEXUALITY (which is who we have sex with if we choose to be sexually active.)
These are three separate aspects of the human experience. Equating masculinity with men is misguided at best. Some of the people who manifest masculinity most powerfully are straight women. Likewise, some of the people who manifest femininity most powerfully are straight men. How about if we identify ourselves as fluid human beings who can move about on the gender spectrum from moment to moment depending on the situation? If we want to stay out of the box, begin now. I am a male, straight, multi-gendered human being.
And that will not fit easily into anyone’s box, thank goodness.
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“Equating masculinity with men is misguided at best.”
This is the dumbest thing I’ve read in years. The notion that those two labels have appeared in the same breath for… well… since the beginning of civilization should give you some indication as to the validity of the equation. If you think gender is a fluid, learned construct you are absolutely stupid.