This is a comment by Eric M on the post “Why Time Outs Don’t Work“.
Danielle asked Eric M:
“Time outs aren’t necessary in themselves—just consistent discipline. How do you discipline your kids if not time-outs?”
Eric M responded:
“We don’t use time-outs. I personally find them to be useless. From my observation, kids run most households. Parents operate in fear of their children, not being willing and able to simply say no and mean it. Then, when the finally get fed up, they may react in anger and frustration.
“Discipline should never be meted out in uncontrolled anger. And, the child must always know the purpose of the discipline, otherwise, it can’t correct the mis-behavior, bad attitude, or whatever is objectionable. However, no one in my family has ever used time outs, nor do my kids plan to use them with their kids.
“We use denial of privileges, mainly, with clear explanations as to the reasons for the punishment, and the path to restoration of those privileges.
“I also try my best to inform them in advance what the punishment will be if the break some rule or principle. So, they know clealry what punishment will be meted out if they do something they know to be wrong. When they were younger, they also got spankings. ”
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