This was a comment by CyberQuaker, on the post What if the ‘Nice Guys of OK Cupid is Harming Innocent People?’
I’ve been following niceguysofokc, and I’ve felt that most of it is justified. I was just like your brother in high school, but I learned not to use the term “friendzone,” as it stems from male sexual privilege. Guys who complain about being friendzoned only see women as sexual objects, and they are not interested in actual friendship. I recently saw someone brilliantly turn this around, as women being put into the “fuckzone,” and I feel if your guys saw that, they would understand what they were doing. Also, it might be beneficial for men to realize that complaining about women on a dating profile is not going to help them at all.
However, I also came across “fedorasofokc,” and much of that is just making fun of guys for wearing fedoras. Then there is “okcgoldmine,” which has some “Nice Guys,” but also makes fun of some people for just being geeky. Notably, that one is run by a man and occasionally makes fun of women’s profiles. Those kind of sites obviously cross over into bullying.