“Separating children from marriage? Sure, we do it, and perhaps we must.”

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  1. The Wet One says:

    Yeah, a man here. So you can totally disregard what I have to say if you wish.

    For my part, I think that a married couple is the best situation to raise a child. Not because it’s natural, or moral or any of that, but simply because it’s its hard to do. Many hands make light work.

    For women who don’t find a worthwhile man before they run out of their best years for childbearing, that’s a bit of a quandry and I have no comment on that.

    For single moms out there, they need all the help and support they can get. However, they are not entitled to it. Society just isn’t set up that way, and we’re a long ways off from people supporting women and kids just because they’re women and kids. As one ex-girlfriend put it, she won’t tolerate any other woman in my picture because she expects all my resources and efforts to be expended on our children and on her. I feel pretty much the same way towards another woman’s children. They ain’t mine. Cold. Harsh. Fact.

    Such are the angles that one must consider when making their way through life.

  2. The problem with just finding “a willing man or a sperm bank” is that you not only make sure a child doesn’t have a father, you also take away half of the grandparents, aunts/uncles, and cousins your child can have. Those are people who will love your child as family, and who may sometimes be called upon to help you out. “It takes a village” is kind of vague, but grandparents are not. My feeling on intentional single mothers is that it sometimes seems they have a need to prove that they alone are enough. I guess if you have a huge extended family and lots of resources, well, then maybe you can get through. I think it’s probably a very rough life indeed if it’s you and your child against the world.

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