Chronicles of a Phone Sex Addict, Part II

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  1. i HIGHLY RECOMMEND CELEBRATE RECOVERY…

  2. you say: I’m the same now or I don’t know if I’m any better and that no therapist has ever tried to talk about it with you (really?) but then jab in a half-assed happy ending about how you seek healthy ways for validation now when the truth is you’re still seeking it from random semi-anonymous girls you find on the internet. this is dishonest writing and it shows.

    • Maybe that sentence was dishonest, but the rest of it is certainly not. Thanks for the accusation, though.

      • I’m glad you took my criticism constructively re: the edits, both in your writing and perhaps in your life as well. still think maybe that last sentence should go…, and that you should write me back.

        • although, i guess my real point was that if you were acknowledging that some of your current activity (even if you’re trying to stop now) is even more dangerous, if less costly, than the phone sex thing, then the writing would be more real and interesting — I guess the writing is *technically* more honest now that you’ve edited it somewhat, but you still present what seems to me like a false happy ending and don’t tap into your current experience of the horror of being an addict to this sort of self-validation. I’m going to stop now though because clearly I’m indulging in my own addictive problems.

  3. Evan, I understand you. I had the exact same problem…was it a problem? maybe, but more of an urge.
    Since I was 16, I would call these phone lines. At first it was just for fun to laugh at all the guys (sorry) but after my self esteem issues I would find myself phoning it again as I got older.
    But see it was free for women, so I didn’t have to worry about that, but as I got older, and more sexually experienced, I would call the local ones and invite different guys to my house like an idiot.
    How did I know who they were? I’m amazed I didn’t get murdered that’s all I’m going to say!
    Anyways, I wanted to leave you a comment. I’m not a hater, more like a relater.
    And I hope your recovery is going well.
    If not, I’m always up for some hot talk…lol…kidding!
    Take care! and thanks for sharing your story. I really hope you can help someone out there with the same type of issue!

    • addicted!! says:

      So..I guess I’m addicted?? Your story can very well be my own. Started out all innocent on the commputer late at night..and escalated to spending too much time searching for someone to call. Just like you I never liked paying for it, and would only do it with likeminded real people that were in it for the same enjoyment. The trouble is..I still partake in this behaviour! As recent as yesterday to be exact! And…oh yeah..its complicated because I’m MARRIED! I know its wrong but I can stop so easilly. Its just too alluring and I can’t stay away!! Its really a great feeling to arouse someone to the point of orgasm, and I guess its somehow filling a void somewhere in my life that I’m unaware of at the moment. Your story, if nothing else, awakened me to the fact that I should devote myself to trying to stop, or more couragously, seek help! Otherwise..just have chrissy contact me…lol

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