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About David Pittman

As the Executive Director of Together We Heal, David Pittman works to educate the public through speaking and collaborating with other groups to raise awareness and expose the sexual predator's methods. TWH now works with therapists, counselors and groups aiding both men and women in their efforts to heal, grow and thrive. He is also the South Florida Area Support Group Leader for SNAP, Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests.

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  1. “I made numerous trips to the place where I knew I had to address my abuser…”

    Did you confront your abuser face to face?

    I don’t think I could do that face to face with my abuser’s supervisors…or with my abuser….he was that physically big and scary…

    • Hi Leia,

      Eventually I was able to face my abuser and ask him why, but I did not receive anything from it. He cried crocodile tears and lied. He said there were no others, but there were…many others. What I was able to do, was to let the people in authority above him know he was a pedophile/sexual predator so they could take some appropriate actions and remove him from having access to little boys. I hear you when you say, you don’t think you could do it. I don’t think it’s always a necessity to do so. I believe it is a most personal decision and one not made lightly. Please do not think that I am suggesting all survivors confront their abusers. In some cases that could be dangerous. I believe that each survivor has a unique path to healing and they should follow that path as they get help from a professional (therapy) and from their own serious introspection. I know how much therapy helped me and my own healing path continues to this day. I hope this has been some help to you. Peace be with you.

  2. Thanks for sharing your story. I truly believe that in order to move forward in life we need to confront our past. Otherwise, no matter how smart we are or hard we work, we end up creating the same future.

  3. David, I’m glad I came across this blog, but I’m sorry for what you experienced. This is essential for survivors to understand because it removes the burden of self-blame: “It’s not that we have to admit we have a problem, we have to admit that a horrible event and crime was perpetrated against us.” Cheers, Lynn

  4. Michael and Lynn, thank you for your kind words and encouragement and for really “getting it” when it comes to this article. What you both said is spot on. We must examine our past in order to have a chance at a more positive future.

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