He gets turned on thinking about women pleasuring themselves… Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert answers “How do I block these thoughts out of my head?”
Question: I’m 42, single, never married, no kids. And get turned on just thinking or knowing about a woman masturbating! It’s so erotic, and sensual, but I have trouble dating without wondering if after a date she will go home and think about me that way.
Suggestions on how to block these thoughts out of my head?
Answer: What if you didn’t block them? What if you didn’t judge them? What if heaven forbid you enjoyed them? 🙂 Perhaps you’re not the only guy that thinks about this? Ya think? xox
What we resist persists, in fact what we resist grows… so what about starting by not judging yourself about this. I mean some people think about taxes, problems at work… at least you’re having fun!
Next, are you dating much? I’ve found with some clients that when they’re not on the court being present on a date… they spin in their mind more. When you keep showing up present for life, work, dates, the gym, your purpose… then you spend less time in your heard.
Lastly, you know how you said, “wondering…if she’ll think about me that way.” To me that reads (so that I know I’m good enough, sexy enough, worthy enough to turn her on.)
THAT may actually be what’s sticking you, your need for her to approve of you, be turned on by your, being enough for a woman.
What if you were enough already and didn’t need that as validation, only a cool perk if it happened and you could get on with your day?
It was a rude awakening for me when I started my personal growth path to realize how every action was somewhere looking for safety and validation. Make it not so!!!! Thus I know first hand what it’s like to not be at rest on the inside, not at peace, not free, not safe and not approving of myself.
I’ve done the work and now I teach others how to have total self approval on the inside, no longer needing validation on the outside, allowing people to have whatever point of view they do, and that’s fine. Of course I’d prefer if someone said yummy things about me, but if they don’t, oh well.
I sense there may be another step to go on the inside to be at peace being you. ALL of you. So please download my www.GetHerToSayYes.com complementary report and video series if you haven’t already. Once you read through it and get a better idea what’s going on… see if it helps. If you still can’t find the blind spot (and don’t worry, I can’t find mine either, that’s why they’re called blind spots) then email my [email protected] Subj: Block these thoughts! and I’ll know it’s you, and gift you with a complementary strategy session.
If you’re 42, single, never married and WANT to be married, what better investment than in falling madly in love with you, oozing badass nobility for the pure fun of it, AND because that’s what most women I know are truly attracted to… your strength and your heart. AND peace with your erotic nature.
Huge love, delicious blessings, Allana oxox
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