Some Serious Drama in the Mommy and Daddy Blogger World

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Ryan O'Hanlon is the managing editor of the Good Men Project. He used to play soccer and go to college. He's still trying to get over it. You can follow him on Twitter @rwohan.


  1. Let’s boil this down to its most simplistic terms:

    If you send women who aren’t your wife or girlfriend unsolicited pictures of your dick, you deserve whatever the subsequent fallout is. Period. End of story.

    Now, speaking from a strictly journalistic standpoint, I will say it is troubling to even see this bandied about here. I don’t write something in the paper unless I can prove it 100%. I’m not saying this guy is innocent, but I don’t see concrete proof anywhere. And until that proof is produced, I’m not sure this is the forum for it. Maybe I’m holding GMP to a higher standard that doesn’t really exist in the Internet Age. I don’t know.

    But what I do know is you named this person without naming him. You may not have physically written his name down, but you provided links to articles and comments in which he is unmasked. And if it’s all true, awesome. He deserves to be publicly shamed and I don’t feel bad one bit. If he did what he is accused of I think that is despicable and I only feel bad for his family.

    But what if it’s not true? And what if he has an explanation? Did you try to contact him for comment? It doesn’t appear that you did. And even in the age of blogs and zero accountability, I still believe in giving people a chance to defend themselves. Even if he didn’t talk to you, at least you can say you tried.

    All in all this is a bundle of disappointment. Disappointment in this blogger for his despicable acts, and disappointment in this site for telling a one-sided story without even attempting to get the other side.

    • I’m just curious–what’s the explanation he could have given that would have made sending unsolicited pictures of his junk to a bunch of women ok? Is there some situation in which it’s ok for a married man with kids to be doing this? Because if there is I’m honestly curious as to what it might be.

      And it looks like he was given the chance to comment and took a pass.

    • Who cares, she isn’t the one who has behavior to be ashamed of. And, I still dont’ know who he is . . . guess i’m not bloggy enough. They did ask him and he declined, if you are going to get on here and criticize her, READ buddy. And the proof?

      Is in the picture.

  2. yeah. i’m hesitant to even chime in except to say this:

    i really didn’t think this post was very cool. no offense, ryan, b/c i’ve read a bunch of stuff from you and ordinarily think it’s terrific.

    this is obviously a tough situation all the way around, and i would have thought that GMP would just as soon stay out of it.

    it just seems so…tawdry and salacious. even tabloid-ish. why even touch the subject, much less, touch it so after-the fact?

    at least that’s how i feel about it.

  3. I think I saw this story standing in the checkout line at the supermarket …or maybe it was Access Bloggy-wood.

    In any case, I am extremely sympathetic to “Karen” and the other victims, especially given that my wife has dealt with this same kind of situation. Such acts can in no way be tolerated. It’s no-win all the way around for everyone involved.

    However, with regards to this post itself, I have to question the value in running a story with such a gossipy bent to it.

  4. TheNextMartha says:

    Unlike the above I did not find this to be overly gossipy. I feel you approached the subject with a goal to provide information. I have not encountered anything online such as this. Maybe I’m not hot enough. Ok, I am. but I also generally do NOT go into anything really personal so I don’t think people feel like the know me. Do you think those women kept the pictures? If I were one of those women, I’d have to throw up a temporary blog called “All the Dicks of (insert name) ” Maybe having that done with women commenting on his junk would make him stop.

  5. As a mom blogger I’ve had to turn off google chat and facebook dm’s because of the “overly friendly” dad bloggers out there.

    It’s a shame.

    What’s really sad is when a community turns on itself. Anna is ready to cannibalize Karen, and all that happened was Karen dealt with a situation the best way she knew how.

    There’s always going to be one bad apple out there, but I hope that the dad community can look at the hideous way that mom bloggers treat one another and do better.

    Also, really? Pictures of your penis? Not hot. Taking out the trash and kissing my neck (after you married me)? Totally hot.


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