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  1. BlackHumor says:
  2. “Dharun Ravi, the recently imprisoned privacy-invading homophobe who drove Tyler Clementi to suicide.”

    Ozy, I hate to disagree, but I have a problem with the idea that Ravi drove Clementi to suicide. I’m glad that he was convicted of what he was charged with, but I think the idea that someone can be legally liable for someone else’s suicide is a very dangerous precedent.

    There’s also something telling about the prison rape comments: I think they a sort of deferred homophobia/femmephobia. Being gay is okay, but only if you’re not on the receiving end. Ironically, I’ve encountered this even among gay men, that being a top is preferable to being a bottom.

  3. BlackHumor says:

    He wasn’t legally liable for Clementi’s suicide. The judge was very clear on that during the whole trial. What he was found guilty of wasn’t driving Clementi to suicide but harassing him for being gay.

  4. This was a great roundup. Loved the protesting escorts and the reminder why birth control does affect men. I’ve been boggling about that ever since it first came out.

    And thank you for linking my blog, I’m glad you found it of value!

  5. BlackHumor: Precisely why saying that Ravi drove Clementi to suicide is troubling to me. Charging him with what he was charged with seems appropriate.

    I’m the furthest thing from a libertarian, but I have a problem in general with hate crime legislation.

  6. Flyingkal says:

    Regarding the “News at eleven: the patriarchy fucks up straight men’s sexualities.”,
    or “The direction of desire” as the title says.

    How are heterosexual men being messed up by the ever-present foregrounding of their desires? There’s nothing like feeling yourself desired, too: it’s powerful and validating and important. If you can’t connect with that? If you’re always the pursuer of people who you don’t understand as full people? And if you can only understand yourself as not someone special, but some guy chasing around gorgeous women to get shot down by the cold bitches but why because you do everything you’re supposed to? You’re missing out in vital ways. You’re not only missing the fullness of connecting with someone you understand as a person, but the affirmation of your sexuality and you yourself.

    But what if you’ve never been, you know, desired?
    Telling me it’s validating and important and that there’s nothing quite like it, does nothing but rub the salt in the wound. I already know that! Everybody knows that! Why else would we be on a lifelong search for it?

    And people lining up over and over again on the internet, pointing fingers and telling me I’m “doing it RONG!!!111!!! Don’t do this! Don’t do that” won’t do one itty-bitty piece of difference.
    Why is it that I can’t connect, and understand them as full people?
    2 persons drunken stupid in a bar 4 o’clock at night hardly understand each other as full people either. (except, maybe, that “full” also means “drunk” in some languages…)

    Commenter “Alex” says “The thing is, there’s no shortage of women who desire me. I know that, I can see it in the way they look at me. But experience has taught me that that’s a lie – if I act on that I’ll only get rejected.”
    But what if you’ve never seen or felt the desire either? Just being toyed with?

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