She’s not happy that her boyfriend is shedding tears after they watch Avatar. What gives?
Dear Sexes: My boyfriend cries after movies. And not just Blue Valentine. He cried like a baby, full-on boo-hoo’ing after Avatar. Avatar! It seriously makes me not want to have sex with him ever again. What do I do?
She Said: Wait, he boo-hoo’d after Avatar? With the blue people? Is he on medication? Should he be?
I bet there are girls out there who would find this super sexy. The fact that it makes you want to put on a chastity belt and throw away the key is a major indicator of a problem in your compatibility. Trust me, if this crying thing bugs you now, it’ll only get worse as years pass. And he’s going to resent you for not understanding his sensitivity (you frigid bitch).
Seriously though, it sounds like this guy’s not the one for you. Lots of fish in the sea.
He Said: Maybe your boyfriend has some issues with blue things (Blue Valentine, blue beings in Avatar)?!?! Kidding aside though, what are your expectations for men (or your boyfriend), as it relates to showing emotions? Would your ideal boyfriend never shed a tear over anything ever? Or just not over sci-fi movies? I know you have a vagina, but do YOU ever cry at movies?
In my experience, real men DO cry (sometimes even at movies). Crying while watching South Park would be weird, but never crying at all would be much weirder!!! Remember he can still maintain his manliness (even your idea of what manliness should be) in other ways. Does his body still get you hot? Is he strong, is he tough, is he protective of you, and your passions? These qualities are REALLY manly!!!
P.S. – Perhaps your boyfriend just has a problem with his tear ducts?!?
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Originally appeared at SheSaidHeSaid.