Danny Baker is alarmed by the number of people who think they can deal with their depression without help.
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Something that really alarms me is the number of people with depression who agree that it’s an illness, but who treat it as anything but. In the last week alone, I’ve heard a variation of the following statements a disturbingly high number of times:
Depression is impacting every aspect of my life, but I don’t want to ask for help because I want to “try and get over it by myself”.
OR
I feel suicidal on a daily basis, but I don’t want to take medication or see a therapist because I don’t want to be relying on anything or anyone to make me feel better.
While you may pay lip service to the notion that depression is an illness, if you’re telling yourself something along the lines of the above, then you’re definitely not treating it like one.
Let me prove it to you.
If you had a physical injury or illness – like a broken leg, diabetes, or cancer – would you refuse to ask for help because you want to “try and get over it by yourself”? Would you refuse to have surgery, undertake chemotherapy or take insulin because you “don’t want to rely on anything or anyone to help you get better”?
Of course you wouldn’t, because you know that you’d never recover from a physical injury or illness without getting help, right?
Here’s the thing, though: it’s exactly the same for a mental illness like depression, because depression is just that—an illness—and if you don’t seek treatment for it, then you won’t get better.
It’s that simple.
So if you suffer from depression, then treat it like the illness you know it is. First, make an appointment to see a doctor. If he or she suggests taking medication, then take medication. If he or she suggests seeing a therapist, then see a therapist. If you can’t afford to see a therapist, then start reading self-help books or doing online therapy (or even better for you, do both). Treat your body like a temple – nourish it with a healthy diet and enough sleep, and strengthen it with regular exercise. Once you start doing these things, then you’ll gradually feel better, and eventually you can recover from your depression and return to living the happy, healthy life you want instead of always feeling miserable or suicidal.
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I disagree with your premises, Danny, but I agree with your conclusion. People who are depressed absolutely should get the help they need, and shouldn’t feel ashamed about reaching out for that help. I think your premises are a little problematic. 1. “[D]epression is just that—an illness …” I think calling mental states like depression “illnesses” is misleading. It implies that it’s a process (often biological in origin) which takes place overwhelmingly within an individual, when in fact it’s often a result of social interactions (both in the individual’s past and present), and is often resistant to change without dealing… Read more »
I think part of the temptation to try and quit by yourself is the overall stigma of depression. I know I was suprised by how many looked at me like I was an alien when I opened up to them. You always hear the same old things… “What do you have to be depressed about” etc. It reinforces the stigma that it is a character flaw and not an illness mind of the victim Getting the word out is the only solution.
It’s not just people with depression that act this way, but the people around you that take the same approach. So even if you are prepared to get help and do what you need to do, often you can’t count on friends or family to help, or even a regular, “How are you doing?”
Despite it society becoming more aware how common depression is, we clearly have a long way to go in learning how to deal with it.