My Not So Secret Vice

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It’s not exactly criminal. So why do you hide the source of your joy?


Some vices are seen as only mildly sinful, yet still embarrassing for the weakness they reveal. Still others seem childish, cultish, or merely uncharacteristic. Whether you consider it childish, randy, or weird, neither as innocent as “My Favorite Things” nor bad enough to land you in the confessional or the witness stand, these are the vices that are too unglamorous, embarrassing, or uncharacteristic to readily reveal.

When you think of something you privately enjoy, can you imagine telling anyone about it? Why do you keep it a secret? Who is the last person you would ever tell about it? What would their reaction be if they found out?

What minor obsessions are prevalent among the guys you know? How does indulging—or abstaining—shape character, individually or collectively?

And most importantly — how do any of these things affect the way you see yourself as a man?

Tell us about your not so secret vice for a future series. Email your response to Lisa at Want to see a copy of our submission guidelines or submit online? Yes, there’s a link for that. 

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  1. I enjoy My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. Yes, volumes have been written about the “brony” phenomenon (I don’t consider myself a brony, just a fan), but I still don’t feel comfortable revealing my being a fan in public. I’ve gotten a lot of backlash about it and so have others.

    I don’t understand why it’s wrong for me to like My Little Pony but it’s ok for a woman to like Star Wars. They’re both kids’ shows.

  2. There seems to be, for once, a push for people to come off as “unimpressed” as possible. The more enthusiastic you are about something, the “lower down” in society you seem. The most “sophisticated” characters in stories and movies are aloof, unimpressed, and not enthusiastic. They look down on those who seem too happy or appreciative. But that’s not exactly what your article is about.

    There are a lot of things guys would be reluctant to admit to. I’m watching football right now, and I’m loving the pink shoes and bracelets of breast cancer awareness. I think pink is a rather attracting color, but I’m not “supposed” to like it. If it’s porn, it’s considered disgusting. If it’s My Little Pony, guys can’t like things that innocent.

    We attach arbitrary things to what is manly and what isn’t. How your alcohol is distilled determines whether or not the drinker is a “real man”. Beer and Whiskey? Okay. Vodka, Tequila, Wine, Wine-coolers, fruity drinks, drinks with olives? Man up. Manly and masculine are much more restrictive terms than feminine or womanly. Men who fall for this quickly become slaves to the term, which is where men get the stereotype of having fragile egos. And “manly” is only becoming more restrictive. Manly is socially defined as that which cannot be considered womanly. So as women get more options, men get fewer.

    So you know what? I used to watch PowerPuff girls. I love kittens and puppies. Pink is a good color. I used to wear dresses and slips when I was a little boy. I also like football, action flicks, explosions, and some things that would probably be NSFW to mention. I don’t, or rather shouldn’t, care which of these make me a man and which ones don’t.

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