Comment of the Day: 'A guy who has EI may get the sex life he wants'

Women love men that can recognize emotion.

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This comment was by erinaiad in reference to the post – A Man’s Emotional Intelligence is the New Sexy

This is so spot on. I’ve long said that there’s not a lack of smart, funny, attractive, intelligent men available, it’s that they simply lack healthy relationship skills as well as any motivation to gain them.

But EI is exactly that, and it serves a person as well in the professional realm as the personal. I don’t want a “feminized” man, but I sure as hell want a man who can recognize when he’s acting out of emotion (being irrational) or over-reacting to something.

A guy who has EI effectively short circuits years of arguments and may actually get the sex life he wants because he’s able to articulate his needs early in the relationship in addition to having the ability to hear his partner’s needs not as a critique but as a roadmap to pound town.

Any EI-type effort is usually exponentially returned – at least among my cohort of college-educated liberal sex-positive lady friends. But seriously, this is the magic bullet.

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