When my ego wages war, I must be kind.
It’s funny. Sort of.
My husband can run farther and faster than me. But, that doesn’t mean he’ll run AWAY from me.
What have you discovered a newfound appreciation for lately?
On Las Vegas, a little black dress, and yearning to be something I’m not.
We can choose our response to the situation. We can decide what we do next.
Scarce resources ignite our lizard brains—and make nice people mean.
The spotlight effect leads us to mistakenly conclude that others are thinking about us, our actions and words, far more than they really are. Have you felt it?
Even if we don’t get the joke, just because others are laughing our faces want to smile and laugh too.
The key is to know how to fail successfully.
Our brains fixate on the first and easiest answer. Only by paying attention, expending the energy, and by allowing the possibility of “unbelief” can we find the truth.
By doing the work, spending the time, and trying to understand, she changed the same old combative narrative. She performed a radical act of empathy.
Mutual, authentic, and meaningful relationships begin with good feelings. This can happen through helping or better yet, asking for help.
We need to expand our ability to see reality, to stop and question ourselves and others, so we can better evaluate the cost.
Through the lens of my embarrassment, I made wild assumptions and misinterpreted someone’s actions.
The Cognitive Bias Series, Part One