Understanding Gottman’s four horsemen and other pitfalls.
About Robert Solley, Ph.D.
Why Do We Treat Our Loved Ones Worse Than Our Houseguests?
(Hint: It’s not only because we can.)
(Hint: It’s not only because we can.)
Normal Conflict in Love
People who come to me for couples counseling often ask “what’s normal” in a happy, healthy relationship.
People who come to me for couples counseling often ask “what’s normal” in a happy, healthy relationship.
The Surprising Benefits of Gratitude & Awe
As with gratitude, recent research has found that awe actually effects changes in our bodies at a biological level.
As with gratitude, recent research has found that awe actually effects changes in our bodies at a biological level.
Getting Your Message Across to the Person You Love
The Envelope and the Letter
The Envelope and the Letter
The Five Love Languages Are Only the Beginning
“Do unto others — not as you would have them do to you— but as they would want done to them.”
“Do unto others — not as you would have them do to you— but as they would want done to them.”
Why Relationships Go Bad, According to Science
Our brains have been formed by evolution to protect us from harm. If we don’t survive, we don’t reproduce and perpetuate our species.
Our brains have been formed by evolution to protect us from harm. If we don’t survive, we don’t reproduce and perpetuate our species.
Seven Good Reasons to Blame Your Partner (And Why None of Them Are Good Enough)
When we feel blamed, criticized, or misunderstood, the feelings of hurt and anger take over our minds and bodies, making it almost impossible to have a decent conversation.
When we feel blamed, criticized, or misunderstood, the feelings of hurt and anger take over our minds and bodies, making it almost impossible to have a decent conversation.
Hurt & Frustration In Relationships
For starters, verbally labeling frustration and anger is better than acting them out.
For starters, verbally labeling frustration and anger is better than acting them out.
When Are We a “We”?
In what ways is it helpful (or not) to think of yourselves as a “we.”
In what ways is it helpful (or not) to think of yourselves as a “we.”
Strike These 5 Losing Strategies From Your Relationship
You can be right and be alone.
You can be right and be alone.
Why Is My Partner Blowing Up Over Such a Small Thing?
Here’s how to respond.
Here’s how to respond.