These are comments by goodguys2greatmen and Tom Brechlin on the post “How Do Men Think About Sex?“
Nice job, Mark. It’s good to see an intelligent challenge to old, unhelpful stereotypes. In my work with male clients addressing intimacy issues and unhappy wives, one key is this.
When a man primarily relies on sex as his barometer of marital health and as a source of his own validation and “good feelings”, he faces more and more rejection. In general, wives are not attracted to this man. Women (even wives in a 20 yr. marriage) are much more interested, attracted to, and desirous of a husband who already has a strong masculine sense of his own value, doesn’t NEED sex to feel good about his connection, and is both confident AND competent in the bedroom. He makes no apology for being a sexual man who wants to please his woman and himself.
This is not a cliche for most men, but a standard that frustrated men should strive for.
Tom Brechlin said:
Goodguy … have you been talking to my wife? I couldn’t have said it better. And with 39 years under our belts, I can easily agree with everything you said.
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