This comment was from CajunMick to Lori Day on “The Bittersweet World of Male Objectification.“
Thanks again for your post, Lori. I’m sorry for your failed first marriage, but it sounds like everything has worked out in the second. I’m glad for you.
To be brief, when I look at the conflict between the sexes, all I see is the suffering. Not who is right or who is wrong, each gender, each group, each individual suffers in their own particular way. Self-righteousness, on either side of the chasm, is useless. It does not promote healing. The best thing to do is to offer bodhicitta (compassion) to all sufferers. Even
those who have/do hurt you.
To many, this may sound, well, stupid or foolishly idealistic at best. It’s not. I have been angry myself. Very angry. Abused as a child, a terrible marriage, losing a fiance to an automobile accident, and all the bumps, bruises and broken bones that few of us get through this life without experiencing. I was carrying a terrible anger. Skipping anything that could sound like proslytyzing, I found a way to deal with it.
So, no, it’s not pie-in-the-sky idealism. When those in conflict really want healing and peace more than they want anger and vengence, they will find their own paths.
I do wish everyone well.