This comment by coach.mass on the post 9 Ways to Lose the Woman You Love…For Good
Steve, I would argue that applying some logic to love is a good thing. So much of how we understand love to be is shrouded in nonsensical, overwrought romanticism. This leads to a lack of accountability. After all, how can someone be held accountable when they can simply say love is crazy and unpredictable? Why bother with exchanging sacred marriage vows if, in the end, they aren’t sacred at all? This romantic nonsense cheapens real love which should be rooted in the reality of how relationships work. Flowers and candy on Valentine’s Day will not save a busted relationship.
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Does including logic and rational thoughts and action into a loving relationship enhance or detract from its longevity and depth?
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Good points. Seems logic and rational thought are, with consideration, respect , humor and tenderness, the foundation and framework of a deep and lasting loving relationship. Lust and sex play their part as does LOVE, but they alone do not a union sustain.
“falling in love at first sight” I wonder if this came from a time when for a woman to admit lust was the same as admitting she was satan herself. So instead of lusting after men (AKA “love at first sight”) they say they “love” them because society won’t punish them for falling in “love” with a man like they would if a woman were to say “I want in those pants!” It was women code for lusting after a man and it morphed into ACTUALLY believing, culturally, in “love at first sight” Women’s sexuality was so suppressed throughout history… Read more »
A kite dancing in the wind is only enjoyable because you have created a solid foundation that will keep that kite rooted.
Logic/reason FIRST. Romance grows from a strong foundation.
This is a STRANGE question!I can appreciate being on the high of love.I am…er,well, I used to be quite naturally romantic.I started writing poetry for females at age 11.Hard life lessons taught me the errors of my ways. I can be romantic,still,but I am more wise and circumspect.In relationships,romance is like dessert is to a good meal.Heck,if one tried to live on desserts one would slowly get fat, sick and die.In American culture,we are fat, sick and high on romance.We believe in ridiculous concepts like falling in love at first sight.We stubble around in the dark and when the high… Read more »