This is a comment by James on the post “What Happens When We Don’t Teach Our Boys About Sex“.
As a 20-something who was both molested by another boy and kept in the dark about my sexuality until my dad sat me down to confront me about the porn I had been watching on the family computer while no one was home, I cannot emphasize how true everything here is. By the time my dad had confronted me about my porn addiction, though he meant well and never intended to; so much damage had already been done. I spent years in confusion that led me to ask awkward even wholly inappropriate questions at the wrong moments (i.e. – in the middle of youth group asking about virginity verification during the time of Mary’s immaculate conception).
Frankly, what I find so disappointing, even maddening is that I can’t find information that is both incorporates scientific fact and Godly wisdom together. Half the time, especially on The Good Women Project, I have found the the sources cited are from Christians who are not doctors nor are they citing anything remotely medical… It’s one big circle-jerk of misinformation and fear-mongering. Even by worldly standards, I know more about both male and female sexual reproductive organs than most of each respective sex knows about their own. I have spent years studying it in a very clinical fashion, hoping that somehow I would be able to glean some truth from these dry scientific facts, but then I walk into church and they simply deny basic scientific facts and talk about hellfire for all sinners.
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