This comment if by wellokaythen on the post “What’s a Guy to Do?“
“I’ve noticed that many of the SAHD’s portrayed on the GMP are shown as heroic figures or even a “new kind of masculine role model.” For me that’s sort of a good news/bad news situation. The good news is that the definition of male role model seems to be expanding to encompass a variety of roles. A man can be secure in his masculinity (if that’s important to him) and be in a childcare and/or homemaking role.
On the other hand, the bad news is that these men are taken as heroic because there’s a larger perception that they’re “beating the odds” somehow, or that they’re singlehandedly thwarting all the stereotypes directed against them. They take on heroic status because they’re assumed to be some sort of underdog. It would be great if one day SAHD’s stopped being seen as heroes. It would be great if they weren’t underdogs anymore. It would be great if some day there were virtually no distinction between stay-at-home moms and dads, and we mostly just talked about stay-at-home parents.
These men’s heroic status kind of reinforces all the obstacles they face. Let’s actually find a way to make it so that being a SAHD requires LESS heroism.”
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