I find my friend Willy extremely dramatic.
He does not say things just as they are; he feels the need to tell an elaborate story so that his point will stick with you for longer.
Our last conversation was about how men behave when they are in love. He said men in their nature are territorial and like to protect. And also supposedly, men in love are extremely protective of their objects of interest.
In fact, I have written about another one of our conversations before.
Anyways, back to the point of yesterday’s conversation. I argued that I found it extremely hard to believe, considering the fact that most men I know are commitment-phobes and cannot even handle a serious relationship, let alone be in love. Willy’s story just did not add up for me.
So, it helps that he backed it up with these 10 strong points and finally won me over to his side. Let me know your thoughts in the comments section.
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Here are 10 Phenomenal Signs He Is Madly In Love With You
1. He is extremely protective of you
“We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.” — John Lennon.
Willy was right. Men in love are extremely protective of their women. It’s like they have this need to keep you safe and sound at all times. They want to be the ones to take care of you and make sure that no harm comes your way.
I’ve seen it firsthand with my own father. He has always been overprotective of my mother and even now, after all these years, he still gets this look in his eyes whenever she so much as steps outside the house. It’s like he can’t bear the thought of her being out of his sight for even a second.
And it’s not just your father or husband that does this; any man who is in love with you will want to protect you from anything and everything. He will be your knight in shining armor, always ready to swoop in and save the day.
A man who is in love with you will be extremely protective of you.
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2. He pays close attention to you
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” — Moulin Rouge
When a man is in love with a woman, he pays close attention to her.
He takes note of the things she says and doesn’t say, the way she behaves and doesn’t behave. He is always trying to find out more about her so that he can understand her better.
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And by paying close attention to his lady love, the man in love ensures that there are no misunderstandings between them. Plus, it also helps him know what she likes and doesn’t like so that he can make sure to do more of the former and less of the latter.
A man who is madly in love with you will pay close attention to you.
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3. He makes time for you
“I have measured out my life with coffee spoons.” — T.S Eliot
In this day and age, time is the most precious commodity anyone has.
And yet, the man who is in madly in love with you will always make time for you.
No matter how busy he is, he will always find a way to fit you into his schedule.
He will make time for date nights, despite having a packed work schedule. He will make time for long phone calls, even when he’s exhausted from a long day. He will make time for you because you are important to him.
The man who loves you will always find time for you.
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4. He goes out of his way for you
“Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” — William Shakespeare
When a man is in love with a woman, he will go out of his way for her. He will do things that he doesn’t necessarily want to do, all because it will make her happy.
For example, he might not be a fan of shopping but he will go with you on a shopping spree if that’s what you want to do.
Or he might not be into watching chick flicks but he will happily watch one with you if it’s your favorite movie.
The man who loves you will go out of his way for you, even if it means doing things that he doesn’t necessarily enjoy.
In the book the 5 languages of love, Gary Chapman says that one of the love languages is ‘acts of service’.
This simply means that some people feel loved when their partners do things for them. If this is your love language, then you will definitely appreciate a man who goes out of his way for you.
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5. He puts your needs before his own
“A real man protects and provides for his woman .” — Unknown
A man who is in love with you will always put your needs before his. He will go out of his way to make sure that you are happy and comfortable, even if it means making some sacrifices himself.
For example, he might not be able to spend as much time with his friends as he would like because he wants to spend more time with you.
Or he might forego a business trip so that he can stay home and take care of you when you’re sick.
The man who loves you will always put your needs before his own.
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6. He is proud of you
“I’m beyond lucky to be where you are in my life, and every part of me is grateful for each day we share together. I am so proud of you, my love. So proud that I can’t tell you enough. Your eyes say it all, they’re the same as the meadow in springtime after a rainstorm.” — Unknown
The man who loves you will always be proud of you. He will brag about your accomplishments to his friends and family, and he will be your biggest cheerleader.
He will be proud of the person you are, and he will never try to change you. He knows that you are perfect just the way you are.
In a relationship, it is important to feel loved and accepted for who you are. And the man who loves you will definitely make you feel that way.
William said to his son in the famous play “Death of a Salesman”, “The man who makes an appearance in the business world, the man who creates personal interest, is the man who gets ahead. Be liked and you will never want. You take me, for instance. I never have to wait in line to see a buyer. “William Loman is here!” That’s all they have to know, and I go right in.”
In other words, he is saying that it is important to be liked in order to be successful. And this is true not just in the business world, but also in relationships.
If your partner loves and accepts you for who you are, then you will feel confident and be able to easily tackle whatever challenges may come your way.
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7. He makes an effort with your friends and family
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” — Morrie Schwartz
When a man is in love with a woman, he will make an effort with her friends and family. He knows that they are important to her, so he will go out of his way to get to know them and make a good impression.
He will also be supportive of your relationships with them.
For example, he will understand if you need to spend more time with your girlfriends or if you want to go on a family vacation without him.
The man who loves you will make an effort with your friends and family because he knows that they are important to you.
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8. He makes you feel good about yourself
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
The man who loves you will make you feel good about yourself. He will build you up and make you feel confident. He knows your strengths and he will help you to see them as well.
He will also accept your flaws and love you for them. He knows that you are not perfect, but he thinks that you are perfect for him.
The man who loves you will make you feel good about yourself. He will build you up and make you feel confident.
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9. He is honest with you
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” — Gloria Steinem
The man who loves you will always be honest with you. He won’t try to hide his thoughts or feelings from you.
He knows that you need to be able to trust him, and he will never do anything to jeopardize that trust.
The man who loves you will always be honest with you. He won’t try to hide his thoughts or feelings from you.
10. He respects you
“Respect is the most important ingredient in any relationship.” — Unknown
The man who loves you will always respect you. He will treat you with kindness and consideration. He will never shout at you or put you down.
He knows that you are an equal partner in the relationship, and he will always treat you as such.
The man who loves you will always respect you. He will treat you with kindness and consideration. He will never shout at you or put you down.
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Final Thoughts
By the end of our conversation, I knew Willy was right. A man who loves you will show you that he loves you. You will not have to second guess it.
Many times, his love will be easily noticeable in his protectiveness towards you. He will be protective of you, your emotions, your time, your investment in the relationship you have together.
These 10 signs are all a manifestation of that protectiveness. The man who loves you will definitely show. If your partner is showing these signs, then you can be sure that he is madly in love with you!
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And Now Your Thoughts…
Please share your thoughts in the comments section!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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