Some people might think that finding their soulmate is easy. They might think that this person will be the perfect partner who loves them unconditionally, makes them happy every day, and lives happily ever after. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case, and it’s critical to be aware of the situation before things escalate.
In some cases, your soulmate can be the most difficult person to love, and it’s crucial to provide the best possible comfort in their times of need. If you’re struggling in your relationship, here are ten signs that your soulmate may not be the easiest person to love.
A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening. — Kenny Loggins
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10. Overreaction
They might overreact to something small that you did or said, and it can make you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. For instance, if you accidentally leave the milk out on the counter, they might start yelling and screaming at you as if you’ve done something incredibly wrong.
It’s essential to try and stay calm in these situations and remind yourself that their overreaction is just temporary, and you shouldn’t take it personally. Instead of keeping up emotionally, it would be best to react logically to the overreaction and explain to them calmly why their reaction is unnecessary.
9. Withdrawal
When they’re upset, they might withdraw from you emotionally and physically. They might stop talking to you altogether or give one-word answers when you try to engage them in conversation. In extreme cases, they might even move out of the house or refuse to see you all together.
If your partner starts withdrawing from you, it’s crucial to give them the space they need. However, it’s also vital to make sure that they know you’re still there for them and that you’re not going away anywhere. Try sending them a text or leaving a note telling them how much you love and care for them. Even if they don’t respond, they’ll appreciate the effort.
8. Lack of Communication
There might be a lack of communication in your relationship. This can manifest itself in different ways, such as not having difficult conversations about important topics or not being able to communicate in an effective manner when there’s a problem.
It’s essential to communicate with your partner, especially when it comes to complex topics. If you’re having trouble communicating with your partner, it might be helpful to seek out couples therapy or counseling. This can help you learn how to share better and healthily resolve any conflict.
7. Unreliability
Your partner might start becoming less reliable, making it difficult to trust them. For example, they might begin to break promises or not show up when they said they would. They might also start being less reliable with their emotions, making it hard to know how they’re feeling.
If your partner becomes less reliable, talking to them about it is crucial. Tell them how their actions make you feel, and ask them why they’re behaving this way. It’s also important to be understanding and give them the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
6. Neediness for Reassurance
It’s possible that your partner constantly needs assurance. They may continuously want you to tell them you love them, or they might become jealous easily. If your partner is always requesting guarantees, it might indicate that they don’t trust your connection.
This can be something you work on as a couple, but it’s vital to be conscious of it. Additionally, jealousy can come from a place of insecurity, and if your partner always needs reassurance, it may mean that they’re insecure in the relationship.
Insecurity is often common, but it’s essential to communicate with your partner about it. If your partner always needs reassurance, talk to them about why and see if there are any underlying issues.
The greatest love stories are not those in which love is only spoken, but those in which it is acted upon. — Steve Maraboli
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5. Emotional Rollercoaster
An emotional rollercoaster can be exhausting, both for you and your partner. If your partner is always up and down, it might be a bumpy ride. However, a mutual relationship requires strength and trust. Therefore, your soulmate needs someone who would comprehend them in the best and worst moments of their lives.
If you’re dating someone on an emotional rollercoaster, it’s important to have patience and understanding. Try to create a stable environment for your partner and see if any resources can help them.
At the same time, it’s fundamental to take care of yourself. It’s okay to set boundaries with your partner and ensure that you’re taking care of yourself first and foremost. Remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup, so make sure to fill yours up first.
4. Obsessive Loyalty
Your soulmate could’ve told you that they love you with such intensity and passion and promised to be with you in the best and worst days, in sickness and in health. With such a degree that makes you forget every single day from your past till the day you met them. Regardless of the circumstance or adversity, your soulmate will always be there to build your heart back after every breakup, and they meant every word of it.
While loyalty can actually be a great thing in a relationship and the desired trait in all soulmates, it is critical to distinguish it from possessiveness and obsession. If your partner is overly possessive and jealous, it might signify that they’re not as secure in the relationship as you are.
A healthy balance of independence and togetherness is necessary for any relationship, so if your partner is overly possessive, it’s crucial to have a conversation about it. Remember that you’re in this together, and you’re both working towards the same goal.
3. Overthinking
Overthinking is a significant problem for some people, and it can often lead to anxiety and stress. Overthinking can often lead to arguments and disagreements and a feeling of being constantly on edge. If your partner is always overthinking, it might not be easy to have a healthy relationship.
In this case, try to help them find ways to relax and destress. Maybe there are specific topics that you can avoid discussing, or maybe there are activities that you can do together that will help them relax. It’s important to socialize with your partner about their overthinking and see if there are any underlying issues.
2. Stressed Out
Getting stressed out sometimes can be inevitable. But if your partner is the primary source of most of your stress, that’s not a good sign. Pressure can come from many things: work, school, family life, etc.
However, if the person you’re supposed to love or vice-versa adds to that stress instead of alleviating it, something’s wrong. If being with them feels like more work than anything else, it might be time to consider seeking professional help.
1. Reverse Psychology?
Perhaps, your soulmate might not be the best at being loved but may be fantastic at loving you back. They love you so much that he/she would do anything and everything to make sure you’re happy. And that’s okay too.
In the end, it’s up to you to decide whether or not your soulmate is worth the effort. If they are, then go forth and love them with all your heart. But if they’re not, then don’t force it. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to give them some space to breathe.
“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.” — Merle Shain
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The Bottom Line
Loving someone isn’t always easy, especially if it’s your soulmate. But if you genuinely love someone, you’ll be willing to put in the work to keep the relationship flourishing. These were ten signs of the ways to know if your soulmate isn’t the easiest person to love.
If you’re facing difficulties in your relationship, don’t give up just yet. Talk to your partner and see if there’s anything you can do to help make things better. Or consider seeking professional help or perhaps therapy to solve any underlying issues.
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This post was researched and inspired by these sources:
- https://www.bustle.com/p/7-surprising-reasons-your-partner-may-be-acting-distant-according-to-therapists-15927158
- https://www.keepinspiring.me/soulmate-quotes/
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