We human beings are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason, it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others. —Dalai Lama
Many men feel that the need to develop themselves socially is something that should happen naturally just as a result of going about your day-to-day activities. The fact of the matter is that socializing and becoming someone who can effortlessly navigate his relationships in his dating, social, and business areas of his life is 100% a skill that can be learned.
When someone says, “He was born that way” in many ways there may be some people who grew up in an environment around people who were social. Maybe they were put in a position where they had to be social regularly. Whatever the case may be, it’s one of the most, if not, the most important skill that you can develop.
Therefore, one of the most powerful things you can do in your social life to create the magnetism and the social superiority that you desire is by connecting with people one on one.
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Nothing happens in a vacuum nor does anyone achieve any level of success by himself. Building a relationship with the right connection, the right mentor, the right woman, the person who can give you access to resources will become the sole decision that can change your life.
In today’s world we’re more connected than ever and yet more and more people are spending money on dating, personal development, and social skills trainings and workshops today. Even though you may have 1,001 friends on Facebook or 10,000 twitter followers, there’s still a gap that remains in relationships.
No social media will ever be able to replace the authenticity and the true connections that come in a face-to-face interaction with someone. In fact, our brains simply miss out on so many signals when it’s not in contact with someone face-to-face.
Therefore, one of the most powerful things you can do in your social life to create the magnetism and the social superiority that you desire is by connecting with people one on one.
Here’s 3 powerful rapport building strategies that can get you on the right track with anyone you meet so you can establish a greater network and build a circle of friends who have your back.
#1 — Establish a common purpose.
One of the most powerful ways to build and establish positive rapport with someone and create a deeper connection is by sharing a common purpose or a mission. Men like Alexander the Great and Julius Caesar were able to unite thousands upon thousands of men by connecting each one of them to a common purpose or a common goal.
The most powerful relationships you will ever have are with those people who you share a common purpose with. Those relationships will always be the deepest.
#2 — Discover their “formula.”
Most people think that others want what they want. Men are hardwired to be attracted to a woman who exhibit the physical characteristics of fertility while women are attracted to a man’s personality and ability to provide. Many men make the mistake thinking that in order to attract a woman they have to exhibit those characteristics that he’s attracted to when it’s really not the case at all.
This goes for any relationship, whether its in your dating life or in your networking connections. If you want to connect with someone in the way that you want to, you’ve got to find out their particular “formula”. Tony Robbins talks about how everyone has their own strategy for attraction whether it be in dating, connecting, or networking.
Many men make the mistake thinking that in order to attract a woman they have to exhibit those characteristics that he’s attracted to when it’s really not the case at all.
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You’ve got to find out the “formula” or strategy that activates their friend seeking mechanism. Everyone has their own unique combination of triggers to open them up to someone else. The most common ones involve some form of attention grabbing, followed by curiosity, and then escalating or solidifying the relationship more.
Sometimes it can take years for that to develop and in some cases in can take as little as 2 seconds. Depends on how fast you can hit all of those person’s triggers in the right order.If there’s a type of girl you’re interested in, find out what kinds of guys these girls are flirting with or what kind of guys she’s dated. What they’re wearing, how they dress, what they talk about, how they carry themselves. Model them and your chances of success are virtually guaranteed with those girls as well as with ANY social objectives you set out for yourself.
#3 — Develop crystal clear self-knowledge.
Without this one the other two I’ve spoken about won’t genuinely work for you. This is something that you develop over time through your own life experiences, your references, and whatever is unique to you. A lot of people claim to know themselves yet they’ll waffle in their decisions and that holds them back from achieving more in their life. When you actually know who you are, what you’re about, what is unique about you —to accept and then love those things about—THAT is where all of your social attractiveness comes from.
I know, it sounds really cheesy and airy fairy so lets look at it from a logical and practical standpoint. People who are clear about who they are and who have truly accepted themselves cannot be rattled by what goes on in their environment. Knowing what you’re good at, knowing what you’re not as good at, accepting it and loving all of it. This understanding will attract people like a magnet draws in iron filings. All of the most respected and charismatic men possess this deep understanding of themselves .
Develop your own knowledge of yourself, keep a journal and every day free flow for 5-10 minutes about you, your actions, your behaviors, your thoughts, what you’re good at, what you’re not good at. What you like, what you dislike. Get more and more clear about this and watch as others will begin to naturally want to take your lead.
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